Ask Amy: High-schooler wants distance from former friend
Dear Amy: I'm a girl in 11th grade.
In my freshman year, I made friends with "Ruby.”
Over time I came to understand that I needed to end the friendship due to Ruby’s troubling behavior toward others and with me.
Now, two years later, I have a new friend, "Sammie," who is also friends with Ruby.
I only hang out with Sammie when Ruby is not present.
On several occasions when I was talking with Sammie, Ruby joined the conversation.
I was cordial, but I tried to limit my contact.
Now, when I see Ruby in the hall at school, Ruby waves enthusiastically and calls my name excitedly.
I don't want any contact with Ruby. I don't want any association with this person’s bad actions, including occasionally being violent.
I don't want to confront Ruby to say I'm not interested in friendship, but Ruby keeps making attempts, suggesting renewing the friendship.