Ask Amy: Relationship rescue and redo is really risky
Dear Amy: I have been in a relationship for the past eight months with a guy.
Two months in, he lost his job and moved in with me and my daughter.
I took care of him and helped him to get a much better job. I wake up before him, pack his lunches, do his laundry, and cook and clean up after him.
He had a very bad drinking problem that would cause him to black out and act very badly.
I also found out that he was connecting with other women the entire time.
Eventually, he cut out all hard alcohol. We would do well for a little while, but then he’d start drinking again and would verbally abuse me and leave me crying.
Afterward, I would explain how this was not OK!
We broke up about a week ago because he put his hands on me.
I asked him to leave, and he did.
I started to feel so much better, but of course I missed him like crazy.