Ask Amy: Caregiving duties create sibling resentment
Dear Amy: My husband’s mother and sister recently moved to our city, and it’s been bumpy.
I’m hoping you might weigh in on a disagreement that’s sprung up.
My mother-in-law has some chronic health issues.
His sister, “Jackie,” is single and is currently living with their mother.
Jackie works from home and has a fairly flexible schedule.
My husband and I have two toddlers. We both work long hours out of the house.
My husband and Jackie have struggled to find a reasonable balance of care for their mother.
She doesn’t need daily care, but she does have frequent doctors’ appointments and doesn’t like to drive.
Jackie thinks that she and my husband should split the load 50/50.
My husband feels this would be equal, but not equitable.