Ask Amy: Couple ponders reconnection infatuation
Seems like this too could affect how clear-eyed we (or at least he) will be. I’ve never had to deal with anything like that, myself, so I’m tossing it over to you.
– Intrigued
Dear Intrigued: You are presenting rational and considerate issues. Any (or all) of these could derail a relationship between the two of you.
Men who find themselves single in later life do tend to partner up quickly. People who have been in long and happy marriages naturally want to replicate the experience (and might know how to).
Long-lost reunions do not need to be “clear eyed.” Fond nostalgia for yesteryear is as good a fantasy as any.
The way to handle this is to … handle it. Whether you take a mad leap or choose to tiptoe in, you two need to get to know one another as seasoned adults with a lifetime of experiences behind you. You should always trust your own core instincts. Your instincts are the best tools you have to determine if a relationship is right for you.
Dear Amy: I’m hoping you can give me some insight for compassion.
My mother's name is an odd spelling of an otherwise traditional name.
For instance, say her name is “Lucy” (it’s not), but spelled “Lucee.”
She gets very upset when people don't get the spelling right (which is often, because I've never seen a similar spelling of this very common name).
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