Life Advice



Ask Amy: ‘Mama bear’ might want to hibernate

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Your suggestions?

– Organized Dad

Dear Dad: Make your plans, assume that all will go well, and prepare yourselves for possible changes.

And – I don’t want to be “that guy,” but please keep in mind that there are families dislocated by warfare and other natural and man-made events who don’t have the privilege of even making plans.

Your family – and mine – can handle a change of best-laid plans, and that in itself is something to feel extremely grateful for.

Dear Amy: I’m responding to the letter from “I Miss Her,” the pregnant woman whose sister-in-law had recently lost a baby. The SIL now had trouble attending baby-centered events, such as showers and birthday parties.

I lost my infant son to a drunk driver 40 years ago.

Like her sister-in-law, it was simply unbearable to be around anyone pregnant. All the same, your advice for counseling, etc., is correct.


Kindness and patience are key here because all these feelings and emotions are still quite tender and raw.

I believe that in time this relationship will turn around and all will be well.

– Been There

Dear Been There: This question has prompted many parents who have suffered through the loss of a child to show their support.


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