Ask Amy: Husband says wife must not roam from home
Dear Amy: I’ve been married to my husband for 29 years. He’s a good dad to our grown children and a good husband to me.
One thing gives me a lot of anxiety and causes heated arguments: I would like to visit my family and friends in Greece, where I am originally from.
He does not have as much time off from work as I do, and he dislikes taking long trips. He’s a homebody.
I have more time off from work, and I have the time and the means to travel to my homeland for a visit.
My husband and I have arguments over me traveling with our kids, or going away with my girlfriends for a couple of days.
He always guilts me or makes me afraid to go, and sometimes he even threatens me with a divorce if I go. We end up having huge fights about this.
Otherwise, he lets me do whatever I like to do.
He will absolutely not see a therapist.
I sometimes feel trapped because I have to make my case each time for why I want to go anywhere.
I wish I had a magic wand to make him understand that it is important for me to be with my family and to occasionally take overnight trips to see people in order to stay connected.