Ask Amy: Co-worker wonders about disclosing raises
Dear Sad: Some vets offer “hospice” or end-of-life palliative care for animals. You might do some research and see if there is a vet in your area who will come to your friend’s house and examine her pup.
This is from ASPCA.org: “Pet hospice is not a place, but a personal choice and philosophy based on the principle that death is a part of life and can be dignified. When considering hospice care, pet parents should be very careful not to prolong the suffering of pets who are in pain or experiencing poor quality of life.”
I went through this with my 20-year-old tabby cat, and the palliative care veterinarian who examined him outlined my options.
I chose to have him euthanized, and buddy died at home with me petting him and thanking him for gracing my life.
And yes – it was so hard!
As with any life-event that is absolutely guaranteed to also be heartbreaking – this is easier to face with a friend’s support.
You can ask if she would like you to go with her – or be with her – when she is ready to go through this process.
Dear Amy: “Sad Mad Daughter,” who was now caring for her abusive and elderly mother could be me.
The thing that is hardest to take is looking at your vulnerable, lonely, isolated, helpless elderly parent and realizing they were looking at a vulnerable, lonely, isolated, helpless child and could actually emotionally and physically abuse that child!
I know my mother didn’t ask for her mental disorder. She is in a nursing home near me; I visit a few times a week and make sure she has everything she needs.
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