Ask Amy: Serious illness is dismissed as psychosomatic
Dear Amy: When I was pregnant with my first child, I was diagnosed with a condition called hyperemesis gravidarum.
It causes debilitating nausea, uncontrollable vomiting and dehydration, and in severe cases, can be life-threatening.
During the course of my pregnancy, I had to go to the ER eight times, and was admitted to the hospital for four days at one point.
HG also led to other pregnancy complications, and I delivered my son by emergency C-section 10 weeks early.
It was by far the most difficult thing either my husband or I have ever been through.
I am now pregnant with my second child, and thankfully am enjoying a normal pregnancy.
The problem is that my mother-in-law has taken my good health now as a “sign” that I was never really sick the first time.
She has expressed that my first pregnancy distress was really a psychological issue because I was “so afraid I wouldn’t have a healthy baby.”
I’m not sure why she says things like this, and it really upsets me when she raises the topic.
My husband says I need to learn that her opinions just don’t matter, but I’m still upset.