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The problem is that the Saturday bride has her rehearsal dinner the same day as Friday bride's wedding. I'm not sure if I should attend the Friday wedding and miss the other wedding's rehearsal and dinner (where I've been asked to give a speech), or miss the Friday bride's wedding altogether, as I have already committed to the Saturday bride's plans (she asked me first).
As far as I know, I have no role in the Friday wedding. I haven't heard any wedding details from the bride. I've only heard about her wedding plans through friends and family.
I want to attend both the Friday wedding and the Saturday wedding rehearsal, but at this point, I almost feel I have committed already to the Saturday wedding in a way that would "disqualify" me from attending the Friday wedding.
Does a wedding rehearsal supersede an actual wedding?
-- Bridesmaid
Dear Bridesmaid: As a bridesmaid, you made a prior commitment to participate in the Saturday bride's wedding celebration. The rehearsal dinner is an important part of that celebration.
If you were truly torn about this, you could ask the bride to be excused from Friday's events. But you don't seem particularly torn.
You have a prior commitment. You made this commitment before you were invited to the Friday wedding. It happens. Send the Friday bride your regrets, and give her your warm best wishes.
Dear Amy: I was amused by your lack of perception in answering the letter from "Mother Brady," the mother whose 15-year-old daughter wrestled her husband's 16-year-old son.
Do you not see what is really going on here between these stepsiblings? There is obvious sexual tension between those two teens at that age. When that young girl has the boy pinned and is straddling him, what do you think is on his mind? The horseplay and wrestling are a way to make it appear innocent.
I would not worry about the fragile ego of the male here. I would be worried about the girl getting pregnant.
-- Mark
Dear Mark: You could be right. But assuming these teens are sexually attracted is the most obvious reaction. Many teens and stepsiblings are able to interact without becoming sexual.
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(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
