Relationship of her dreams creates fears, too
Dear Hurting: This still hurts because being bullied and harassed in adolescence is noxious, undermining and unforgettable. Of course, it still hurts!
You should spare a thought for the wounded life of the young person who would be so cruel. Only someone deeply scarred would seek to torment and injure another young person in such an obvious way.
But enough about him.
I like your idea to "not know" this man at the event. If you can't avoid an encounter or introduction, responding with "...And you are...?" might make you smile inside.
I assume you were not his only victim. Attend this reunion knowing that you have a squad of people (all of the bullied, harassed or formerly lonely high schoolers reading this) cheering you on.
Dear Amy: Thank you for your response to "Saddened," who had recently been dumped by her husband. No, she should not have to beg her husband to see their children, but yes -- she should always try to advocate for the kids.
Like you said in your answer -- it's hard.
-- Been There
Dear Been There: Yes, it's hard. But that's what good parents do.
(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
