Abused wife needs a safety plan
And not to put too fine a point on it, but he is not a good person. Good people don't abuse and assault their partners. And the passage of time will not make this better, but will likely make it worse for all of you.
All of your efforts should go into protecting yourself and your children, and leaving safely.
Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline today (Thehotline.org or 800-799-7233). You can call or communicate with a counselor through their 24/7 online "chat" function. It is important to develop a safety plan so that if you are in a stressful, violent situation, you will have an idea of what to do so that you can leave quickly and safely. Thehotline.org has a helpful checklist called: "Path to Safety," which a counselor could review with you, as well as helping you to identify safe places and shelters in your area.
I am genuinely worried about you and your kids; please seek help today.
Dear Amy: I need to know if I'm out of touch with what is socially proper.
Frequently when I go to people's homes for dinner I am greeted at the door by barking dogs that stick their wet nose in my crotch, jump up on me, scratch my legs, won't leave me alone and are a general nuisance.
When we are hosting, we get requests (the day-of) to bring their dog along.
I have politely explained we are a pet-free house, for no other reason than we like it that way.
Once we had people coming to visit from out of state for three days. This had been planned for weeks. They announced via email an hour before their arrival that they were bringing their dog.
We politely responded that the dog would need to stay in the garage. They canceled and went elsewhere, as we were in the process of preparing dinner for them.
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