Husband wants to rekindle sex-starved marriage
This year, my husband chose to make remarks loud enough for my brother to hear but not directly to him.
I was furious and after everyone left I told him I thought his behavior was rude and completely disrespectful to both me and my brother.
Needless to say, he does not agree. How do I navigate this minefield at the next holiday dinner?
-- Holiday Stressed
Dear Stressed: You could offer a simple solution to your husband: If he will prepare and serve the holiday meal, then he will have earned the right to feel offended if your brother smothers the food in ketchup.
Your husband does not have the right to be rude and claim that it is on your behalf.
A most gracious host accepts people as they are, annoying quirks and all.
Dear Amy: Responding to "Unsure Grandparents," about giving gifts to step-grandchildren, I was the step-grandchild who spent 10 Christmases watching my cousins open the latest clothing, toys and electronics, gifted by our "grandparents," while my sister and I were given a sweatshirt and pants that were obviously from discount stores.
If these grandparents can't or don't wish to treat these two children the same, then they should find other ways to dote on their son's child that won't rub the sibling's face in it.
-- Been There
Dear Been There: Wise. Thank you.
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