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Dear Rolling My Eyes: One client's "talking down" or "pontification" is another's "information session." Other clients of this practitioner's might expect and appreciate a full explanation about what is going on with them before the practitioner touches them.

Your new chiropractor is not a mind-reader. You should communicate clearly with him: "I haven't been your client for long, so I'm letting you know that I appreciate your techniques, but I'd rather you just get right to my adjustment, rather than explain things. If I have questions, I'll be sure to ask. I want you to know that I trust you -- I just want to maximize our time."

If he can't -- or doesn't want to -- adjust to your style, then you should keep looking for a new practitioner.

Dear Amy: Why the Catholic bashing in your answer to the question from "Excluded?"

The question was about a rabbi nephew who refused to attend the family's mixed-faith wedding. You noted that in the Catholic church, the list of exclusions to attend is "several items long."

You don't know what you are talking about, and I resent your bigotry.

-- Upset Catholic

Dear Upset: I responded regarding Catholicism because that is the religion I probably know best, and to punctuate my greater point that many religions create exclusions for witnessing weddings.

Some Catholics will decline to attend weddings considered "invalid" by the church -- the most obvious example being a same-sex union. (The rabbi-nephew in question was declining to attend a wedding he obviously considered "invalid.")

Michelle Arnold, my favorite columnist on Catholic.com, notes that, "Can I attend this wedding?" is the most frequent question she receives.

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(You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@amydickinson.com. Readers may send postal mail to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook.)