Girlfriend wonders how to exit abusive relationship
The best way to handle a relationship with a loved-one caught up in a whirlwind is to do your best to stay close. This means that you should make an effort to meet her beau, and maintain an open attitude toward him.
When caught up in the throes of early attraction, many people cling to the love relationship, to the exclusion of others. This should pass.
You should tell her you're happy for her, express an eagerness to meet her new guy and keep your admonitions gentle and based in friendship.
Dear Amy: Like "Upset," I, too, have been caught between friends after a breakup. I was given an ultimatum by one of the parties. I simply stated, "Be careful what you are asking, for I will choose the person not making me choose. I will not let anyone selfishly dictate who I am friends with."
This caused my friend to realize how manipulative she was being. She has since learned to be civil in mixed company.
-- Been There, Said That
Dear Been There: Brilliant.
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