ArcaMax

I don't want to lose what family I have left when this all comes to the surface, but I'm a firm believer in "right is right" and "being true to what you believe."

How do I stand up for what I believe is right and not lose the few family members I have left?

-- Stuck in the Middle

Dear Stuck: You are not actually stuck in the middle. You should navigate this by understanding that your cousin's marriage simply has nothing to do with you. It shouldn't matter what version of events you choose to believe. This is not your moral battle to wage.

You should expect your family members to sympathize and perhaps side with your cousin. This falls into the age-old category of "blood is thicker than water." If you want to share your point of view, you should do so directly with your cousin. You can believe whatever you want to believe, but there is no reason for you to gossip with other family members about what is happening with someone else's marriage.

Dear Amy: I am an adult in my 30s. I've recently been thinking about a classmate I had back in high school. This person had a condition that I would describe as a "nervous tic."

A memory keeps coming up where I feel I may have mocked this person once.

I myself am struggling with a similar "tic," so you can imagine how I feel if indeed I did hurt this classmate.

I feel like I should reach out to this person and make things right.

However, I discussed this with a current friend one evening as we walked down memory lane. They suggested that maybe it's best not to bring this up; perhaps this classmate is doing better and I may bring up some old memories that the person may have forgotten (or would rather forget), and my comments could make things worse.

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