Wife of elected official feels the burn
-- S, in East Asia
Dear S: Asking someone, "What, exactly, is your problem?" is negative, and a little aggressive. This girl is telling you that she wants to put the brakes on the speedy progress of your relationship.
The kind and respectful thing to do is to respond, "OK, I understand. Let me know what works for you. I'll wait to hear back from you."
Stepping back a little bit and giving her the space to make her own choice may inspire her to move forward.
Dear Amy: I asked my hairdresser for her opinion on the question from "Too Old for This!," the hairdresser whose manager was passing over older stylists in favor of giving work to the younger, less-experienced ones.
My hairdresser said that managers sometimes deliberately assign "walk-in" clients to less-experienced stylists, in part to test the younger employees' capabilities.
This might not be age discrimination.
-- Faithful Reader
Dear Reader: "Too Old" described other workplace practices on the part of the young manager that were, at least, unprofessional. I appreciate you asking about this, and hope that these older hairdressers can find ways to be more proactive in terms of marketing their own services within the salon.
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