Mother worries about communion exclusion
Dear Aunt: "Things" have not changed all that much. People who offer to host events should be thanked, and the recipients of this generosity should gracefully accept, offer to help and not interfere.
Cussing, screaming and hanging up on people has never been an acceptable way to communicate, and it's not acceptable now. You have learned some unfortunate truths about these family members, and because you can't please them, you should gracefully bow out and let them do what they want to do, on their own.
Dear Amy: I have a simple solution for "Worried Future Mother-in-law," who was worried that the mother of the groom would be drunk and disorderly at the wedding.
They should simply not serve alcohol at the reception, although they shouldn't tell the groom's mother ahead of time -- otherwise she might bring her own, or arrive drunk.
-- Problem Solved
Dear Problem Solved: I have read that "dry" receptions are on the upswing, but many marrying couples, their families and friends, are not willing to sacrifice their own celebratory imbibing for others' sake.
I absolutely believe in limiting alcohol served at these celebrations. Alcohol use at weddings leads to problems that last far beyond the typical hangover. Drunken revelers damage property and relationships, and the consequences of drinking at these open-bar events are sometimes tragic.
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