Misery Is a Self-Motivator

Richard Oates had really not done much with his life. He tried hard to make it as a rock singer and, despite having genuine talent and a commitment, he was struggling for survival.

One evening in Sacramento, California, Richard was scrounging around for quarters to feed the washing machine and clothes dryer when a thought suddenly hit him: "I'...Read more

Imagination and Laughter

There's a story about two dog owners who met in the park one day and each commented on what a beautiful dog the other had. Questions arose on what they fed their dogs. Dog owner No. 1 said he only fed his dog the best dog food that money could buy. The other owner said he fed his dog "turnip greens." Dog owner No. 1 became astonished and made ...Read more

Does This Make Sense?

In the month of March 1993, there were a number of news articles and programs on television about the fact that 5th-grade girls were being sexually harassed by 5th-grade boys.

Roughly 80 percent of these girls complained about having lewd remarks directed at them and of being patted and pinched, as well as having obscene gestures made toward ...Read more

A Reason to Be Negative

Several years ago, an article in The New York Times pointed out that many people have every reason to be negative about themselves and their lives. If they were poverty-stricken as a child, had been abused and neglected, felt no love, and had never had a word of encouragement, etc., then "no wonder they are negative."

Question: What can you do ...Read more

Forgiveness Is Dangerous

Forgiveness is dangerous. Many of you will look at that and wonder what's coming, since you've always been told that forgiveness is a must if your future is going to reach its full potential. And you're right -- but the reason forgiveness is dangerous is that when others have badly used or abused you and you forgive them for doing it, you no ...Read more

The Many Attitudes of Life

Let's look at five life attitudes. First is self-esteem. That's the way you feel about yourself. That feeling of your own worth influences every facet of your life. The quickest, most sensible way to feel good about yourself without going on an "ego trip" is to do something you are proud of.

The second attitude is love, which is your attitude ...Read more

Increasing Productivity

Job training in America is multibillion-dollar industry. Everyone is interested in cutting costs and increasing productivity. Years ago, the famous Hawthorne Study was conducted in New Orleans, Louisiana. The objective was to increase productivity. By turning the factory lights brighter, productivity increased. Later, by turning down the lights,...Read more

Good Boss/Bad Boss -- Your Choice

The first thing to remember if you are going to "get along" with the boss is to never forget, according to behavioral psychologists, that he or she is your boss. It is your job to make the boss' job easier and to do the work the way the boss wants it done. You're there to remove obstacles for the boss, not be the obstacle. Because promotions and...Read more

Humor Is Funny If ...

One of my favorite anecdotes I repeat is the one about going to the recreation center to exercise and to lift weights. I point out that I had to cut down on the weight lifting because I was bulking up, and many people thought that I was taking steroids. As a general rule, that gets quite a good laugh, and at age 70, when I tell this story, it is...Read more

When the Other Person Drops the Ball

It's true that no one gets through the day or week, much less a lifetime, without someone with whom they live, work, play or have another association "dropping the ball." The mate might forget to pick up the dry cleaning on the way home. The executive assistant forgets to give you the important message. The airline loses your baggage. Your mate ...Read more

What Good Are Friends?

Everyone speaks of the need for friends and the role they can play in one's life, but an anonymous writer put it this way: "Friends in your life are like pillars on your porch. Sometimes they hold you up, and sometimes they lean on you. Sometimes it's just enough to know they're standing by." Elisabeth Foley points out that friendship doubles ...Read more

Unsung Heroes

If you're an avid fan of golf, you might remember that John Daly won the British Open in 1995. What you might not know is that there were some "unsung heroes" involved -- Corey Pavin, Brad Faxon, Bob Estes, Mark Brooks and the caddy. The first four were tour players who had played in the tournament but did not make the playoff. Constantino Rocca...Read more

What Are You Waiting For?

Psychologist William Moulton Marsten surveyed 3,000 people and asked them, "What have you to live for?" Ninety-four percent were simply enduring the present and waiting for "something" to happen -- their children to grow up, next year, until they could afford a trip, someone to die. Most of them were waiting for tomorrow, forgetting that all one...Read more


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