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Natasha Frost: 4 steps to avoiding a horrible co-living situation

Natasha Frost, Rate.com on

Published in Business News

With the unemployment rate at its highest since the Great Depression, perhaps you're one of the many Americans currently having difficult conversations -- or avoiding one -- on the topic of sharing space.

That might mean welcoming a roommate into your home, crashing with Mom and Pop for the foreseeable future, or taking the plunge to work from home or retire -- resulting in far more time around your spouse. You might also be on the other end of the equation, facing a home invasion from the beloved offspring you thought had long since left the nest.

As of 2016, 30% of U.S. adults lived with either a roommate or a parent, according to analysis from Zillow. In metropolitan centers, it's higher: 40% in New York City, 41% in Miami, 45% in Los Angeles. When recessions hit, co-living rates go even higher.

The doubled-up household, a term demographers use, is sometimes a happy occasion -- a couple stepping out together, say. But often, it's less positive: friends begrudgingly shacking up to save cash, or adult children moving back in with parents.

Don't be hard on yourself if you can no longer afford to live alone. (Try to be gentle on those boomerang kids, too.) Here are some ground rules for establishing a good roommate relationship, whether you're virtual strangers or hoping to spend the rest of your lives together.

--Vetting. Many colleges ask prospective dorm mates to fill out a survey about habits, expectations and preferences. The University of Rhode Island's is here, as a starting point: https://web.uri.edu/commuter-housing/files/Roommate-Questionnaire.pdf

 

It's helpful to gauge whether you're on the same page about noise, guests and cleanliness, among other issues.

Not a good match on paper? Don't despair. It doesn't mean you need to find a new roommate (or significant other). Instead, take the opportunity to have some frank conversations about middle ground. Maybe you prefer a spotless house with an open door policy, while your prospective roommate likes solitude and a bit of a mess. Go in with an open mind, and be prepared to compromise. Ask if you can talk to their previous roommate (or landlord) about what they're like to live with; offer them the same courtesy.

--Ask the hard questions. It feels uncomfortable to ask for a credit check or to see bank statements, but it's no more than any prospective landlord would expect. A refusal to comply may be a red flag. If you're both on the lease, you're liable if they don't pony up the rent.

For couples moving in together, this may be the first time you've asked about their financial situation, or broached the question of debt. Bad credit doesn't have to be a dealbreaker, but it is worth knowing about ahead of time.

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