Ask Amy: Husband’s love has hit a wrinkle

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on Feb 28, 2024

You should ask your future son-in-law for suggestions of ways you can get to know his parents better. What are their interests, hobbies, favorite foods?

Invite them to visit your home with the engaged couple so you can get to know them a little better in a small group in advance of the wedding, with the son on hand to help translate.

If you extend yourself warmly in friendship, they will likely appreciate it, even if they might struggle to communicate.

When it comes to larger events, make sure to introduce them to other extended family members and wedding guests.

If you don’t hit it off with them, also understand that many in-laws don’t actually get to know one another that well or choose to spend time together, aside from mutually participating in wedding events.

Dear Amy: I was disgusted by your response to “Worried Employee.” Worried Employee made a comment to her new co-worker after seeing a photo of the woman’s cats on her desk: “I’d never have a cat. I just don’t trust them.”

After the co-worker retaliated, you stated that she should be fired.

How would you feel if I looked at a photo of your kids and said, “I’d never have kids. I just don’t trust them?”

If someone makes fun of my fur-babies, I’m going after them with everything I have.

– Disgusted

Dear Disgusted: If you said, “I’d never have kids. I just don’t trust them,” I’d agree with you.

“Retaliating” by publicly trashing a co-worker on social media platforms would – and should – get you fired.

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(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)