New parents wonder about posting, tagging
I love surprises, but I loathe surprise parties. Keep in mind that they are not for everyone. She might prefer to know about this in advance, so she can look forward to it.
Hosting this two months late is awkward, but if you decide to go ahead, you should have fun with it.
You could basically turn back the clock and post calendars and newspaper headlines from June 16. Make sure to offer a wonderful public toast to her.
Yes, people can/should bring gifts, and yes -- singing should happen.
Dear Amy: "Worried" was "dropping off groceries" once a week for her husband's 94-year-old grandmother, "Jenny," who lived alone in what seemed like unhealthy conditions.
While I shared your alarm and concern about this elderly woman, it is important to remember that she has the right to live the way she wants to live, including rejecting help.
-- Concerned
Dear Concerned: You are right, but there are also many ways to help people who are infirm or no longer capable of keeping themselves safe. Meals on Wheels offers free meals delivered by volunteers; this might be preferable to dropping off groceries.
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(You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@tribpub.com. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook. Amy Dickinson's memoir, "The Mighty Queens of Freeville: A Mother, a Daughter and the Town that Raised Them" (Hyperion), is available in bookstores.)
