Relationship falters through mutual bad behavior
Your girlfriend's choice to hook up with someone else is not your fault or your responsibility. Her choice to tell you about it is just mean and immature retaliation.
Your choice to try to sleep with other people is not your girlfriend's fault or responsibility. It is an immature reaction to feeling "unmanly."
If you want to reconcile, you could start things off by offering your own sincere apology for your own behavior. Do not blame your behavior on her. Take responsibility.
This might inspire her to offer her own explanation and apology. Don't reconcile unless you completely clear the air.
Dear Amy: After 40 years of enduring put-downs and false accusations, I let my controlled anger have sway over a family matter that was close to my heart with my daughter and her husband.
Because of my anger (which I expressed through e-mails and phone calls), they decided to bring silence upon us. This has been going on for nearly two years.
Before that, our daughter had always had a harmonious relationship with us. Her husband is from a dysfunctional family. Within their marriage, two of his siblings have committed suicide and the third was on that route. Our son-in-law's parents were at one time on the road to divorce.
In spite of apologies for my flare-up, there has been no response to phone calls, e-mails or letters.
Last year they informed all their children (six adults) not to have anymore contact with us (including the great-grandchildren). Three of the grandchildren have not (and will not) obey their parents' wishes.
The other three have gone with the wishes of their parents.
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