Woman wants her guy to put a ring on it
Is my family right about her being too young? She's very mature for her age. Should I continue to pursue this, or wait and possibly miss my chance? -- Slightly Older Guy
DEAR SLIGHTLY OLDER: Asking a girl out does not make anything "official" -- other than officially declaring your interest in her. "Randi's" folks might not want her to go out with anyone (or anyone older) until she is a little older too.
I can't say whether your parents are right about you being "inappropriate," because you don't provide details about your behavior that they might object to. But in my mind a 16-year-old guy who has a crush on his sisters' friend seems like a normal and "appropriate" experience.
You should continue with the friendship but hold off on any big romantic gestures for now. The start of the school year should be a time of transition and adjustment. The adjustment for her into high school is especially big. Suppress your instinct to lock this down; instead you should hang on and hang out and see what happens.
DEAR AMY: Thank you for your response to "Godmother," who was worried about how to protect her goddaughter from the mother's sometimes poor judgment.
All children need to know there is someone who will listen to them and stick up for them. -- Also a Godmother
DEAR GODMOTHER: I hear from many adults who wish they'd had an adult in their corner during their childhoods.
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