ArcaMax

Q: My fiance and I are excitedly looking forward to getting married. But we've run into some disagreements regarding money. Should we have joint or separate bank accounts after we're married?

Jim: This is a common question -- and you'll hear various opinions. In my mind, a "yours and mine" mentality isn't conducive to a happy, healthy marriage....Read more

Q: What do we say to our kids when Grandpa and Grandma play favorites? My parents are clearly partial to my daughter -- their first grandchild -- over her little brother. He obviously notices but doesn't say much. Help?!?

Jim: I'd say that your top priority is to affirm your son (the youngest child). Reassure him that you've seen the signs of ...Read more

Q: I recently remarried after years of being a single parent. My new husband is a wonderful man. He's kind, but firm, with my three kids and plans to adopt them. But my preschool-age son is having a difficult time warming up to his new stepfather. Help!?

Jim: Based on my own experience as a young stepson, it's easy for me to see this situation ...Read more

Q: I'm not generally one for labels, but I think it's fair to call my husband a "workaholic" -- he might even agree. He's preoccupied with his job and spends very little time with me and our kids. When I've asked him about it he just says: "Things will be better soon." Do you have any suggestions?

Jim: As a rule, we men are usually wired to be ...Read more