Sister catches her sister's boyfriend in a lie
It can be heartbreaking to watch a beloved family member bury her own dreams and engage in what seems like a dead-end relationship, but you must always accept the fact that she is making her own choices. Even if you disagree with these choices, you should convey to her that she is in charge of her own life and that you will always be in her corner, no matter what.
Be very wary of making overly negative statements or nonnegotiables concerning this person. You may all be stuck with him for some time to come.
Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I have been dating for more than two years now. We've been talking about marriage for well over a year, but I really haven't put a date on when to propose to her.
We generally knew that a good time to get engaged was once she was done with her nursing program (this December) and perhaps once she had found employment.
Recently, my brother told me he plans to propose to his girlfriend in December around his own one-year anniversary.
Is there an etiquette surrounding how long I should wait to propose in order to not steal his spotlight?
He knew I planned to propose to my girlfriend but we had never discussed timing, so I can't fault him. Still, I can't help but feel his proposal plans mean I have to wait on mine.
What should I do? I'm trying to be thoughtful.
-- Older Sister
Dear Sister: You should ask your brother when, exactly, he plans to propose (obviously promise to keep this knowledge to yourself).
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