ArcaMax

Q: I was devastated when my husband recently left me and moved in with another woman. My kids are confused because their dad has been lying to them about where he's living and the reasons for our separation. What can I tell them?

Jim: I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. While I can understand your desire to protect your kids' innocence...Read more

Q: My fiance and I are excitedly looking forward to getting married. But we've run into some disagreements regarding money. Should we have joint or separate bank accounts after we're married?

Jim: This is a common question -- and you'll hear various opinions. In my mind, a "yours and mine" mentality isn't conducive to a happy, healthy marriage....Read more

Q: What do we say to our kids when Grandpa and Grandma play favorites? My parents are clearly partial to my daughter -- their first grandchild -- over her little brother. He obviously notices but doesn't say much. Help?!?

Jim: I'd say that your top priority is to affirm your son (the youngest child). Reassure him that you've seen the signs of ...Read more

Q: I recently remarried after years of being a single parent. My new husband is a wonderful man. He's kind, but firm, with my three kids and plans to adopt them. But my preschool-age son is having a difficult time warming up to his new stepfather. Help!?

Jim: Based on my own experience as a young stepson, it's easy for me to see this situation ...Read more

Q: I'm not generally one for labels, but I think it's fair to call my husband a "workaholic" -- he might even agree. He's preoccupied with his job and spends very little time with me and our kids. When I've asked him about it he just says: "Things will be better soon." Do you have any suggestions?

Jim: As a rule, we men are usually wired to be ...Read more