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What constitutes a good mother?

Parents / John Rosemond /

By the time this column appears in most papers to which it is distributed, Mother’s Day 2017 will have come and gone. Nonetheless, I’m going to talk about mothers—one in particular.

To begin with, assuming one believes his or her mother is worthy of admiration, then said esteem ought to be expressed on a frequent basis and not reserved ...Read more

Heated Reactions To ADHD Column

Parents / John Rosemond /

I fully expected my recent column on ADHD -- in which I expanded upon noted Harvard psychologist (emeritus) Jerome Kagan’s contention that it is an “invention” -- to stir the pot. Kagan said what I’ve been saying in this column and everywhere the ...Read more

Parenting Reality Check

Parents / John Rosemond /

Dear American Parent (hopefully, you will recognize yourself),

It’s high time someone reminded you of the adage “The road to ‘Hades’ is paved with good intentions.”

I have watched you from near and far as you have gone about raising your children. You’re certainly a well-intentioned person, thus my reference...Read more

Obedience And Happiness

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: I’ve read enough of your writings to know that you believe children should be obedient, that they should do what they are told. I want my children to think for themselves and to question authority, not to blindly obey simply because someone is bigger than they are. I don’t want them thinking that “might makes right.” ...Read more

The Freedom To Fail

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: Our 17-year-old son is an unmotivated student. A junior in high school, he is clearly capable of making straight A’s, but typically makes B’s and C’s. He plays on both the football and tennis teams, but is a standout at neither. He thinks kids who use drugs and play video games are “stupid” and his friends are all ...Read more

ADHD And Medicine

Parents / John Rosemond /

In 2009, pediatrician and former medical school professor Bose Ravenel and I published “The Diseasing of America’s Children” (Thomas Nelson), in which we argued from facts that ADHD and other childhood behavior disorders were inventions of the psychological-psychiatric-pharmaceutical industry.

Cancer, high cholesterol, influenza, measles,...Read more

Should Parenting Change With The Times?

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: You seem to blame all of America’s parenting woes on mental health professionals and imply that if parents still raised kids as did people in the 1950s and before, they wouldn’t be having the problems they’re having today. But times have changed, John. Is it realistic to think that children can still be raised like their...Read more

The Child-Centered Family

Parents / John Rosemond /

Once again, a reader proves that parenting must be added to religion and politics as verboten subjects for polite conversation. A column I published back in December of 2016 went viral recently -- yes, three months later (such things are mysteries to me). In it, I proposed that parents, not children, are the most important people in a family and...Read more

31-Month-Old Having Tantrums

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: My 30-month-old has started throwing tantrums when I do not give her or do for her what she wants. During her fits, she cries, screams, tries to hit and even bite me, and then, if I prevent her from hitting me, will hit herself. My mother says this needs to be nipped in the bud. She recommends spanking. I say my daughter ...Read more

Make Parenting Great Again!

Parents / John Rosemond /

The problem in American parenting is the 1960s. Among other things that defined that very interesting (ref. ancient Chinese curse) decade was the replacement of rationality by emotionality. It was during the 1960s that the media, various self-appointed spiritual gurus, and the mental health professional community urged people to “get in touch ...Read more

Obedient Kids Are Happy Kids

Parents / John Rosemond /

I’ve said it many times, but it bears repeating: A child’s natural response to the proper presentation of authority is obedience; as in, the first time the child is told to do something, he does it.

Furthermore, research finds what common sense intuits: Obedient kids are happy kids. Therefore, whereas an obedient child is certainly a ...Read more

Teenager Wants To Go Live With Birth Mother

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: Our 14-year-old son, who was adopted by open adoption, now wants to go live with his birth-mother. She was completely out of the picture until a couple of years ago when she suddenly showed up, telling us that she'd completely changed her life and wanted to re-establish contact with "her" son. At first, it was just phone calls...Read more

High School "Nap" Clubs

Parents / John Rosemond /

There must be some relationship between aging and the "You've got to be kidding me!" response, if I am any indication, that is. What was once occasional has become almost daily.

My latest "YGTBKM!" was in response to a Wall Street Journal article ("New Instructions at High Schools: Take a Nap," February 9, 2017) on high school nap...Read more

Cell Phone Use

Parents / John Rosemond /

As regular readers of this column already know, I am completely, one hundred percent opposed to children, including teenagers still living at home, being in possession of smart phones. No parent has ever been able to give me a logical reason why a minor should enjoy such a privilege, if enjoy is even the proper word.

The most common rationale ...Read more

Teenaged Daughter Disrupting Family

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: Our 15-year-old daughter has become, over the past year or so, quite a disruptive influence in our normally peaceful home. She was a gem until she entered high school when she almost overnight become disrespectful and combatively argumentative. If she disagrees with a decision we make, she will begin screaming at us, calling us ...Read more

Breaking Down The "PARENTSPEAK" Theory

Parents / John Rosemond /

“People almost invariably arrive at their beliefs not on the basis of proof but on the basis of what they find attractive.”

So said 17th Century French mathematician and philosopher Blaise Pascal. He meant that people are more likely to form opinion based on emotions than evidence.

I thought of Pascal’s insight as I read several excerpts...Read more

 

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