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Here's a simple solution: 'Stop it!'

Parents / John Rosemond /

I often find myself telling parents that they need to stop doing something that is counterproductive and, in most cases, contributing significantly to whatever parenting problem is bedeviling them.

“How do I stop?” is the typical response, which brings to mind “The Bob Newhart Show” which ran on CBS from 1972 to 1978. Newhart, a truly ...Read more

Living with Children: Should son switch schools?

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: Our 13-year-old eighth-grader says he doesn’t like the small private school he attends and wants us to put him in public high school next year. His grades are fine, he’s got several close friends, and he’s on the basketball and track teams, but he says that he’s bored and wants to attend a bigger school that offers more in the way of ...Read more

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Living with Children: Fixing our parent-view

Parents / John Rosemond /

Most of the problems today’s parents are experiencing in the course of raising children are due to a faulty “parent-view.” Just as one’s worldview consists of attitudes, values and expectations concerning the world and his or her place in it, a person’s parent-view is primarily constituted of one’s definition of their parental ...Read more

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Why? Because I said so

Parents / John Rosemond /

When I was a graduate student, one of the parenting memes then emerging from within the mental health professional community had it that “children deserved explanations.” The flip side of that very progressive notion was that parents should never say “Because I said so” in response to “Why?” or “Why not?”

One of the books I read...Read more

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Give teenagers clothes stipend to teach responsibility

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: My two young teens are constantly begging me to buy them clothes. It’s become highly annoying. After reading your book on teenagers, I’ve decided to stop buying them any clothing and give them each an $750 annual clothing allowance. Should I give them the whole amount at once or give it to them on a monthly basis?

A: Great idea! However,...Read more

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How to help your child get more grit

Parents / John Rosemond /

It’s all over the web, that “grit” thing. Seems like every day, I get some promo for a webinar on how to get more grit, project more grit, or get in touch with your inner grit. So allow me to enlighten the reader on how to help your child acquire grit.

First, what is grit? Grit is equal parts determination, tenacity and emotional ...Read more

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Tighten up deadline for adult child to move out

Parents / John Rosemond /

“We should, like, what? Give him a year to figure out his life and move out?”

I’m talking to the parents of a 21-year-old male, who instead of going to college or into the military, delivers pizzas, eats pizzas (he gets an employee discount) and plays video games. I’m having déjà vu. I’ve had this conversation before, many, many ...Read more

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Psychological parenting is a prescription for enabling

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: In your column, you have often spoken of “psychological parenting.” What, exactly, do you mean by that?

A: Answering your question requires that we first unpack the word “parenting.” The definition is simply “what parents did not do before the 1960s,” which is when parents began putting children at the center of attention in the...Read more

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Anxious children

Parents / John Rosemond /

A stalwart friend recently called my attention to an online article titled “Two Things to Say to a Child Returning to In-Person School (& Two You Should Avoid).” I am choosing to provide counterpoint because the advice contained therein is prime example of the problematic babble that constitutes most web-based parenting advice, which may be ...Read more

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How to stop toddler's head-banging

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: Our 19-month-old is a very active little boy who flips out when things do not go his way. When he has a tantrum, we walk away or simply ignore him. Nonetheless, he will scream and flail about and has recently begun to bang his head on the floor, walls, doors, furniture, whatever. Is this typical of very strong-willed toddlers and will he ...Read more

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With parenting young adult children, less is more

Parents / John Rosemond /

It seems to be generally true that as one gets older, the habit of reminiscing develops. Looking back seems to be a function of getting closer to the final curtain. The closer the latter, the more of the former in which one indulges. In that regard, I indulge in an optimistic amount.

I often reminisce about my paradoxical childhood. My parents ...Read more

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How to tame son's tantrums

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: Our 4-year-old, an only child, is giving us fits. As a toddler, he began ignoring us. That evolved into downright refusing to do what we ask, as in, “I’m not going to” and just plain “No.” It seems like the nicer we are to him, the meaner he is to us.

In addition, his tantrums when he doesn’t get his way have become Class 5 ...Read more

 

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