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Teenaged Son Smoking Marijuana

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: We recently discovered that our 16-year-old son has been smoking marijuana on a regular basis. At first, we intended to begin using an over-the-counter drug test but then learned that teens have figured out how to beat these tests. One of our son’s friends, for example, was regularly tested at home and always tested negative ...Read more

Parenting "Psychobabble"

Parents / John Rosemond /

One of the biggest problems among today’s parents—especially mothers—concerns their tendency to think in psychological terms about their children’s behavior problems. Mothers are more prone to this intellectual wandering than fathers not because of some gender-related characteristic but simply because mothers are the primary consumers of...Read more

The Most Important Members of the Family?

Parents / John Rosemond /

I recently asked a married couple who have three kids, none of whom are yet teens, "Who are the most important people in your family?"

Like all good moms and dads of this brave new millennium, they answered, "Our kids!"

"Why?" I then asked. "What is it about your kids that gives them that status?" And like all good moms...Read more

Young Boy Having Nightmares

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to tell us is that there are scary people chasing him. He began having them about a month ago and has had maybe twenty since. They usually occur ...Read more

Vegan Grandchildren Part Of "Entitlement Generation"

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: My husband and I are looking forward to hosting our children and grandchildren over the Holidays—or were. We were recently informed that our 30-something daughter and two of her children have decided to go completely “vegan” and gluten-free and will only eat food that is devoid of any and all animal and wheat products. I have ...Read more

Setting Up Children For A Life Of Drama

Parents / John Rosemond /

The following true story was recently related to me by a credible individual who for obvious reasons will remain forever anonymous. I pass it on because it is a quintessential example of the general intemperance of today's parenting.

The scene opens in the white-collar home of a 14-year-old girl and her parents. She is an only child...Read more

Take John Rosemond's Postmodern Psychological Parenting Quiz

Parents / John Rosemond /

Some of the sources that inform today’s parenting do not come to immediately to mind when one thinks of raising children. Take Karl Marx (1818 – 1883), for example. Along with his buddy Friedrich Engels, Marx articulated the fundamental principles of communism. He proposed that capitalism was an economic and social system that exploited and ...Read more

Arguing With Teens, Part II

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: In last week’s column, you advised parents not to argue with teenagers. That’s fine and dandy advice, John, but you failed to tell your readers how to stay out of or end these arguments. For example, my strong-willed, stubborn, argumentative 14-year-old daughter wants to argue with me about nearly every decision I make, every “No...Read more

Arguing With Teens

Parents / John Rosemond /

My advice to The Wall Street Journal, the only news source to which I subscribe: Stop trying to be all things to all people. Specifically, stop giving parenting advice.

The latest attempt by WSJ to complicate parent-child matters is a November 7 article oxymoronically titled “The Smart Way to Argue with Your Young Teen” in which the author,...Read more

Parenting With Consequences Further Defined

Parents / John Rosemond /

One of the disadvantages of this job is that I rarely have enough space in which to say all that I'd like to say. Take last week's column in which I said "Consequences should be employed whether they work or not." Some elaboration is in order.

Today's parents tend to believe in behavior modification. They believe, in other words, ...Read more

Consequences For Teenage Daughter

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: Our 17-year-old daughter is bright but puts very little effort into her schoolwork. For example, she currently has very low grades in several classes simply because of not turning in assignments. Her only after-school activity is hanging out with her friends, so the problem, in our estimation, is simply one of setting priorities...Read more

All About "Executive Function"

Parents / John Rosemond /

The new school year is still fresh and “it” has already begun, “it” being the ongoing effort on the part of schools to persuade parents that there is something wrong with their kids’ brains.

This year, this effort is about something called “executive function,” which the Harvard Center on the Developing Child defines as the “...Read more

True Bullying Or Just Drama?

Parents / John Rosemond /

Noting that October is Bullying Prevention Month, several editors have asked if I am willing to write an apropos column. I am and for two reasons feel eminently qualified to do so.

My first qualification is that I was bullied as a youngster. It began in the fifth grade with George K. He would run me down, wrestle me to the ground, ...Read more

What Matters Most In Parenting

Parents / John Rosemond /

Q: Dinner with our three kids always, and I mean ALWAYS, turns into a disaster. Typically, the oldest, 11, begins to needle the youngest, 6, and then, when the middle one, 9, figures out which of them is winning, he jumps in on that side. We've yelled, sent the instigator from the table so we can restore a semblance of order, not ...Read more

The Idea Of "Immaculate Parenting"

Parents / John Rosemond /

In 1971, a psychologist named Fitzhugh Dodson published a book titled How to Parent. It did so well that he came out several years later with How to Father. By 1971, Dodson was one of a handful, if that, of child-rearing traditionalists left in psychology, but his titles were quite progressive. In short order, parent and parenting became verbs, ...Read more

"Postmodern Psychological Parenting"

Parents / John Rosemond /

In the late 1960s, America came to a fork in the parenting road and took the road never traveled. My generation did what no generation in any culture at any time in history had ever done: we broke with the parenting traditions of our foremothers and forefathers. When the time came, we refused to take the well-worn parenting baton and carry it ...Read more

Dentist Fear A Phobia Or Behavior Problem?

Parents / John Rosemond /

Question: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we arrive at the appointment. When the doctor or nurse tries to examine him, he goes bonkers—screaming, hitting, kicking. He has to be held ...Read more

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