Life Advice



Meet Joe Beige

I've been dating this guy for a month. Things with him are really average. However, we met through a mutual guy friend, and I'm actually really into that guy. Could my staying with the guy I'm seeing spark jealousy in the friend and lead him to make a play for me?

--Wrong Place

Sext your boyfriend and ask him to forward it to his ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Callous In Wonderland

At family gatherings, my sister-in-law makes critical remarks about my appearance, like my shirt's very low-cut or I might want to lose weight before wearing the dress I have on. She only does this in front of others, and she says she just tells me because she cares about me. It doesn't feel that way. I'd really like her to stop.

--Feeling ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess; Not OK, Cupid

A gay male friend set me up on a date. The man was HORRIBLE. He spent the entire date talking about himself. Everything was a brag. He didn't ask one question about me. Now I'm wondering whether my "friend" knows me at all. Why would he set me up with someone so wrong for me?

--Seething Woman

The road to good intentions is sometimes ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Bored Walk Empire

Why am I only attracted to unattainable guys? As soon as men express interest in me, I lose interest in them. How do I break this cycle?!


At the moment, the perfect love poem for you would come from a clerk at the court: "Roses are red, violets are blue; stay 500 feet away, or it's handcuffs for you!"

Chances are you're ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Grisly Bare

I hooked up with a really good friend a few times. We both agreed to forget about it to preserve our friendship, but he's been really distant. I don't want to be the one to reach out and say something. How do I get things back to normal?

--Upset Woman

Sure, they say a really good friend is someone who knows everything about you -- ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Flee Infestation

Disturbingly, I've had two close female friends "ghost" me in five months. I've known each for 15 years. (They don't know each other, and one lives out of state.) I've tried repeatedly to contact each, asking "Did I do anything to hurt or offend you?" No response. I just want the truth so I can move on.


There comes a time when...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Business Whirled

I'm a woman who's fiercely competitive in the business world. I've been rewarded for pursuing deals as relentlessly as highly successful men do. Yet, taking this approach in my dating life -- energetically pursuing men and confidently asking them out -- has been a bust. The men I go after seem to find my openness, excitement, and confidence ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: The Sociopath Of Least Resistance

I discovered that the guy I'm dating has a girlfriend he's cheating on. In fact, she confronted us, which was awful. I've had a history of guys cheating on me, and I want to end the pattern. Unfortunately, I'm not attracted to a lot of guys I go out with, and I'm really attracted to this guy.


Being really attracted to ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: From Hear To Eternity

My roommate has this need to tell me all about his day when he gets home. Making matters worse, his main form of communication is complaining. I need quiet time when I come home, not a second job as an unlicensed therapist. I've hinted at this, but he isn't catching on.


Your hopes and dreams change as you go through life -- like...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: 'I Have A Gleam...'

I'm a straight woman, and at my recent birthday party, several people remarked about this other woman, also straight, "Whoa, is she infatuated with you, or what?" Straight women getting intense girl crushes on me has actually been a pattern in my life. Weird. A friend says I have "charisma" but couldn't really explain what that is.

--...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Charmin School

Yesterday, my roommate picked up some household supplies (toilet paper, sponges, etc.) and asked me to split the cost. I've bought plenty of household supplies in the two years we've lived together without ever asking for any money. It feels weird and cheap that he's suddenly doing this. Am I being unreasonable in feeling this way, or is he ...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Heart Of Barkness

My friend recently bought a $3,000 labradoodle but refuses to pay to get it trained. The dog is really badly behaved. Whenever I bring up the need for training, my friend gets very defensive and lashes out at me. Last time I visited her, the dog got into my bag and chewed through some seriously expensive skin care products I treated myself to...Read more

Science Advice Goddess: Ghoul, Interrupted

A good friend's mom just died. Out of nowhere, he told me that his mom never liked me very much. Frankly, the feeling was mutual, but I of course never said anything. While I don't want to start a fight or anything, I'm bothered that he told me this. How should I let him know?


When somebody talks trash about you, it's ...Read more


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