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Spurning Curve

I was feeding my meter the other day, and this guy started chatting me up outside his store and got me to take his number. He seemed sweet, but things quickly got weird when he wanted to come over the next night. I said that didn't work for me, but I offered to swing by his work and say hi during the day. He responded angrily: "No. I wanna ...Read more

Vicious Recycle

I've started dating a guy that an estranged friend of mine was engaged to and dumped 25 years ago. She completely broke his heart. She's been engaged eight times, married five, so I hardly think he was special. But some of my girlfriends think it's not cool and say I'm breaking "girl code." Am I betraying her?

--In A Quandary

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Once Upon A Crime

I've been with my boyfriend for nine years, and I'm still pissed off about stuff from like five years ago. I don't know how I remember this stuff when I can't find my keys half the time. I'd like to get rid of these resentments and not keep bringing them up. I know it's not healthy for me or our relationship, but I don't know how to let ...Read more

A Labor of Leave

I haven't had sex since my last breakup, and I'm all lusty. I really like this guy, but he seems to have some intimacy issues. We went on a coffee date, and the chemistry made things go further than I would have wanted or expected (making out like crazy in the car). My friends keep reminding me to build trust and friendship before sex. But...Read more

Ingrate Expectations

My husband and I attended his niece's wedding two years ago. Our gift was money earmarked to pay for their honeymoon. We were miffed that we never got either a thank-you note or any word that they'd actually used the money for a honeymoon. We recently got a note that they're expecting their first child. We sent a nice card but no gift, as ...Read more

The Rid Carpet

I'm a 30-something gay guy. When I moved to a new city five years ago, I knew nobody except two female co-workers, who became my first friends. I have since met wonderful, talented, artistic people who are more my style. I no longer work with these ladies, and I'm just not interested in hanging out with them anymore. When they call to get ...Read more

Captain Hookup

I'm a single man in my 30s, and I don't want a relationship right now. I keep meeting women online who say they only want something casual. Then, on the first or second date, it becomes obvious that they want a relationship, not just fun and sex. What's with the bait and switch? -- Annoyed

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The Dumpster Fire Within

About six weeks ago, I started dating the nicest guy. I have some intimacy issues (basically, fear of abandonment), and having somebody be nice to me is new and uncomfortable. I freaked out one night and had sex with somebody else. I know this guy I'm dating isn't sleeping with other women, but we haven't had the official talk. I don't plan ...Read more

Murk In Progress

I'm in a weird place in my life: My work situation's up in the air, and there's a lot of uncertainty in my romantic life and my living situation. Friends are telling me to be patient and live in the moment, but I'm finding all of this not knowing extremely upsetting. Is there anything I can do to feel less anxious? -- Distressed

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Friend Over Backward

A friend agreed to dogsit while I flew up to visit my ailing dad. She bailed at 7 p.m. the night before I flew out, saying she needed three days to pack for a vacation. She never even apologized. I don't want to be friends anymore. She said, "You're throwing a friend away over not watching your dog." But it's not that. It's that she broke ...Read more

Are You Clonesome Tonight?

My friend thinks I'd do better in dating if I went on those sites that match people according to "similarities." Most of the couples I know aren't that similar. Could those sites be wrong? How much does similarity matter for being a good match with somebody and the chances of a relationship working out long-term? -- Single Woman

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I Second That Emoticon

I know some men refuse to use emojis because they think they're silly or cheesy. But I have to say, when men use emojis, they make me feel good. Is it crazy that a heart or a rose emoji makes me feel like a man's more interested? -- Wondering

It's easy to misinterpret tone in texts. However, emojis are basically the cartoon cousins of ...Read more

Nurse Case Scenario

I have to go visit my mom, who's in the hospital in another state. She's really ill. Her boyfriend told me she's lost a lot of weight and it might be shocking to see her initially. I want to be strong for her, but I'm a big crier. I cry on every phone call, and it's awful. How do I show up for her and not let my feelings overwhelm me so she ...Read more


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