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How to eradicate your inner judge

Carolyn Hax on

Dear Carolyn:

Recently I was walking through the park on a warm summer night, and I came to the long overdue realization that I judge other people in my own head.

I'd really rather not. It's not good for the soul.

Now what?

-- Your Honor

Now, give your soul a checklist.


-- Forgive versus judge anything you yourself have done.

-- Forgive anything you've forgiven in someone you love.

-- Forgive anything that could have even one reasonable or sympathetic explanation -- though thinking up as many as possible is a great exercise in compassion.

Say you've judged a stranger for snapping at his kids. But maybe he's just been dumped/fired/scarily diagnosed. Forgivable, right? So forgive.


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