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Invisible Disabilities

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

READERS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from Jan. 11, 2010, and adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

When I'm in an elevator and someone takes it to go up one floor, there's the occasional rude stare or snide comment. This really bothers me because I have friends with "invisible" disabilities that limit their use of the ...Read more

Unique Way of Grieving

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

READERS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from March 5, 2010.

Dear Carolyn:

My mother has Stage 4 breast cancer and is near death. My family has begun to discuss funeral arrangements. Having lived in their community for 40 years, my parents have a number of friends and acquaintances that my father and siblings wish to invite to a ...Read more

Mother in Law Misery

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

READERS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from Jan. 4, 2010, and adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

We just took in my husband's mom, who is pretty much an invalid. She has a million needs, she is cranky and she is making my life miserable. She is also making my 11-year-old daughter miserable. My husband has asked us ...Read more

Gender-Specific Rules

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

READERS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from March 12, 2010.

Dear Carolyn:

I thought you were right on in your answer to B. from Maine [about who pays for dates, Feb. 2]. You were correct to suggest kindness. However, I think your answer was a little simplistic when you said, "Note, none of these [rules] is gender-specific," ...Read more

Holding Onto Bitterness and Anger

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

EDITORS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from Jan. 4, 2010, and adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I recently read one of your columns where you said it was easy to be unhappy. Do you think it's easier than being happy? With now many years of experience under your belt, why do you think people protect their bitterness, ...Read more

Stand Up For Your Faith

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

EDITORS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from Oct. 9, 2009.

Hi, Carolyn:

I'm caught between my husband and my dad. Dad is getting older and becoming very set in his political views. My and Hubby's views are opposite his but we do not debate him because he tends to be closed-minded and prone to ranting. Fine, OK, whatever.

But a ...Read more

Trusting Instincts

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

EDITORS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from June 7, 2009, respectively.

Dear Carolyn:

How do you know if you have good instincts when it comes to trusting people? I like to pride myself on that, and I'm sure I've been duped no more than the average person. But after a recent duping, I'm finding most romantic interests (or women in ...Read more

Retroactive Apologies

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

OK, so my brother and sister-in-law had an emergency and needed someone to watch the three kids. My partner and I volunteered. We are childless. We are also really gullible and maybe think we are more capable than we really are.

We decided to take them all out to dinner, just so ...Read more

Dealing With Life

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I am secure in the fact that I don't want kids, and at 35 and very single, I have learned how to be alone without feeling lonely. I date when I want to, but don't make that my focus. I've been successful at work and recently expanded my hobbies by starting my own website and creating a community of people around that. In short, ...Read more

Not Visiting Enough

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I live a plane flight away from my family, and get only one and a half weeks of vacation a year. I get a constant stream of people saying they missed me at [whatever event] and I should come visit more.

I know that individually they mean well, but I'm not happy with the situation ...Read more

Refusing to Be 'That Bride'

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My stepmom wants to throw me a totally inappropriate bridal shower with her extended family. Her extended family who isn't invited to our wedding. Her extended family who I met only at her and my dad's wedding.

I've told her unequivocally no about seven times. She keeps coming back with different justifications. "You really ...Read more

Grieving

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

After many years of suspected (vehemently denied) psychological issues and drug use, and after burning bridges with an entire extended family, my 32-year-old niece died yesterday.

I'm overcome with, I don't know what, sorrow, guilt, relief, anger, ambivalence. I had enough stress in my...Read more

Is It Abuse

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I've been dating my boyfriend for 11 months. It's the best relationship I have ever been in and I love him.

Last weekend he found out about a social media account I didn't tell him about and got very upset. He found out when I showed him a cute kitten post on the site, so it wasn't so ...Read more

How Best to Answer

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My daughter, 6, has just begun noticing that many of her friends have much nicer homes than we do. For a variety of reasons, my husband and I live in a relatively small apartment whereas many of her friends live in large houses. She also shares a room with her younger sister -- and I think is one of the only kids in her class ...Read more

Confounded Dad

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Daughter, 25, with a Master's degree and a minor in snark, seems to be dissolving into a life overseas (France) that is centered on guy-security. Her past relationships approximate serial monogamy a la one year with Charlie, two months off; six months with George, one month off; eight ...Read more

Rejected Teammate

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I play for a high school sports team that had only one senior this year. Nobody is particularly fond of this player, but she is important to the success of the team so we try to get along.

For her senior night, I led the team in making two amazing signs and taking, editing and printing over 30 pictures of her, as well as ...Read more

Expectations

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hey, Carolyn:

I completely understand that people have very different expectations about who will pay at a celebratory "let's go out to XX restaurant" night. What I struggle with is how to know who will pay.

I received an Evite from the birthday girl to join her at a restaurant with a hipster bar, ...Read more

Flying to See Parents

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hey, Carolyn:

I always learned growing up that if I didn't have the money for something, I shouldn't buy it. As an adult, I make a decent salary, but my wife and I have struggled with a bunch of unexpected medical bills for the past few years. Which happens.

My parents live in another state and want us to visit often. Visiting my parents is...Read more

Tough Conversation

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

I'm hoping you can help sort out a family issue. My mother has been implying that something is going on in my brother's life, but won't say what. She's obviously very stressed about it, but stress and emotional instability are her norm, so that isn't always an indicator.

I Googled him ...Read more

Suspicious of Fiance's Co-Worker

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn!

My boyfriend of four years and I moved in together and got engaged. Things were going very well initially -- everything I had hoped.

However, I had been a little suspicious of his co-worker, "Missy." I confronted him and he confessed they had feelings for each other but nothing happened...Read more

 
 

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