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Don't choose a Worst Man for the wedding

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I'm getting married. That's awesome. However, my parents want me to ask my brother to be my best man. The idea of letting my brother, who's spent his whole life being the biggest jerk he can manage, stand up and give a speech about me makes me want to break something.

He outed me as ...Read more

Pregnant woman pulls career bait-and-switch

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I'm pregnant and have come to the realization that I need to be a stay-at-home mom. My husband and I had planned for me to go back to work, but I now realize staying home with the baby is something I need to do.

My husband is not being supportive at all. He said that if he had known he...Read more

After seven moves for husband's career, she wants to retire on her terms

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I have been married to my second husband for 24 years. We have a 16-year-old and I have two adult children.

I have moved seven times in 17 years for his job. He didn't have to quit and take another job, but they were opportunities for him to climb the ladder in his career. I have had to pack up and start over seven times.

I ...Read more

Helping a troubled niece

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I set up time to hang out with my 14-year-old niece, who is very sweet and also has been getting in trouble -- skipping school, lying to family, etc. She reminds me so much of myself at her age.

I figure I can relate to her in that regard and try to share what I know now that I'm ...Read more

Handling an overbearing, talkative family member

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

During extended family get-togethers with my side of the family, there is one person who does 95 percent of the talking. When I ask someone else in the room a question about their lives, this person always jumps in and takes over the conversation again. This talker also never inquires about what might be new or important in the...Read more

When to include Mom in the delivery room

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I am six months pregnant with my first child. I've been fixated a bit on who to have in the delivery room with me, I think because it's one of the few elements I can control in this pregnancy. Should it just be my husband, or should I invite my mom too?

In favor of my mom -- we have a ...Read more

How to tell your unkind daughter she's wrong

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My 27-year-old daughter recently broke up with her live-in boyfriend. Now she wants me to tell her I'm on her side of every dispute.

It's her life, she's an adult: Got it. But should I really be expected to tell her she acted well when she didn't? She was needlessly cruel, and she doesn't care at all that she insisted we ...Read more

Help for a snooping sister's marriage

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

I just got off the phone with my sister, who is married and has a 9-year-old daughter. Her husband has been having an emotional affair with his high school sweetheart. My sister knows because she has been going through his phone; apparently, he sends the sweetheart text messages and ...Read more

My Super Memory Freaks People Out

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I have an excellent memory for details and while it's a great asset in my work (I do statistical analysis for a pharmaceutical company), it seems to be a detriment in my personal life for reasons I do not understand.

I can remember innocuous things people said or did or what they wore ...Read more

How to handle a brother-in-law-bully

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My husband of 15 years has two sisters who live two and four hours away, respectively. Sadly, both parents died five years ago. We try to keep the family ties despite the distance.

Ten years ago, the sister who lives closer to us, "Liz," married "George." George has three brothers and the family is tight-knit, a small pond ...Read more

Planning a heart-to-heart with a rebellious teen

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I set up time to hang out with my 14-year-old niece, who is very sweet and also has been getting in trouble -- skipping school, lying to family, etc. She reminds me so much of myself at her age. I figure I can relate to her in that regard and try to share what I know now that I'm ...Read more

Parents deny cash-strapped kids financial and emotional support

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My parents (mom and stepdad) are in their 70s, retired, healthy, and doing well financially. They spend their money on traveling the globe and constantly remodeling their new Florida McMansion. That's fine. They can spend their money on whatever makes them happy.

They weren't the most caring parents. They did provide what they...Read more

An attention-phobe's guide to breaking the news of a broken engagement

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

Over the past week, I've discovered I have a pretty bad problem to have, followed by a very good problem to have. My fiance and partner of seven years told me on Monday that he didn't think marriage (or me!) was for him, and moved out -- two months before our wedding.

My question is: ...Read more

Girlfriend refuses to attend his AA sobriety birthday gathering

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I've been in a serious relationship with someone pretty wonderful for the most part of a year. We're super compatible and it could be the real thing. But now something has come up that has made me question it.

I'm a recovering alcoholic, and got sober with the help of my family at a time when it threatened my life. It's been ...Read more

When your life's on the upswing, but it doesn't feel that way

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

In a lot of ways my life is really great right now. I just got engaged, I've finished my graduate degree, and I'm finally going to therapy to address my lifelong anxiety.

But I'm still struggling, and I've realized now that I've gotten my degree, I have no idea what I want to do next, ...Read more

Married to an angry yeller

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband is wonderful, supportive, kind. He truly is. We have been together a long time and love each other dearly.

We do have one recurring issue. When he gets angry, he yells. This is not necessarily at me; for example, the IRS messed up our taxes and he started yelling about how ...Read more

She slept with her friend's husband. Must she now be the group pariah?

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I have a close group of girlfriends I have known for decades. We have helped each other through very difficult times over the years, and laughed and celebrated a lot as well. As you can imagine, we have also gotten to know each other's husbands and children very well.

I recently learned one of our girlfriends has been having ...Read more

Childless friend thinks he could parent better

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Carolyn is away. The following first appeared on Jan. 18 and Feb. 1, 2004.

Dear Carolyn:

My wife and I don't have kids yet (hopefully soon), so I don't want to throw stones at people dealing with a stress I have yet to face. But we have friends who do have babies and toddlers, and who often are making (we think) bad choices for their ...Read more

Friend's decision to marry a dud speaks volumes about friend

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Carolyn is away. The following first appeared on Jan. 21 and Feb. 6, 2004.

Dear Carolyn:

What do you do when a good friend is about to tie the knot with a dud? He's not a bad guy; he's just a dud. They live in different cities and fight all the time because he doesn't call, he doesn't write, he's not doing this, he's not doing that -- that'...Read more

Release girl, find rudder

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Carolyn is away. The following first appeared on Dec. 3, 2003.

Dear Carolyn:

My girlfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me, saying she needed space. We both just moved to a new city (her for school, me for job/her). I don't know many people here, and we spent virtually all our time together, partly by design, partly by necessity....Read more

 
 

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