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Sister-in-law prioritizes dog ownership over visits from her nephew

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

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Letting daughter adapt to college on her own

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

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No interest in shower for her 'rainbow baby'

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

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My 3-year-old son wants to be constantly held

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

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Confronting a friend over child's behavior

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

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I need help on how to talk to live-in partner about sharing household bills

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

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Worried about 'elite' boyfriend meeting my parents

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

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Controlling sister doesn't appreciate brother's care for Mom

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My siblings are arguing over my elderly mother's finances. My brother (60-plus) lives with Mom (80-plus) but does not pay rent. He pays for some groceries and makes her meals. When she is unable to move on her own due to surgery, he has stepped up and assisted her.

My sister ...Read more

How to get immediate help for depression

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I suffer from depression that has been fairly well controlled until recently. The past couple of weeks, I'm having a terrible episode, to where I'm really not sure I want to go on living. I know I need to see a therapist, but I've gone down the list of therapists in my insurance ...Read more

Sick of parents constantly undermining my family rules

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

To say I don't get along with my parents is an understatement.

The only thing they like more than their grandchildren is being in control. Neither of them has any respect for the rules my husband and I set for our household. If I say no, my mom keeps asking, or storms out of the room. When I tell her we don't give treats ...Read more

Not interested in being biological father's dirty little secret

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

At the ripe old age of 45, I am both excited and happy to have found my biological father through DNA testing. He abandoned my mother and me shortly after I was born so I have no illusions about the past. But I want to get to know him and my half-sister. He has shared his medical...Read more

Managing a hypercompetitive sister-in-law

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I just got engaged to one of four brothers who are very close. My fiance's oldest brother has been married to "Jackie" for a year. I sense Jackie is used to getting a lot of attention for being "the daughter we always wanted" to my future parents-in-law, and may also have some vision of herself as the up-and-coming family ...Read more

Moving on after husband leaves her for another mom in their son's class

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband is having an affair and plans to leave me for his affair partner. She is a single mother with a child in the same classroom as our son. The kids are not friends, but they are friendly and bound to be in classes and activities together again. How do I handle this?

-- ...Read more

Mom pushes her obnoxious boyfriend on the family

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My mother's boyfriend of seven years, "Steve," is not a horrible person, but he is ... difficult. He is a classic know-it-all, and regularly changes the subject mid-conversation to tell random stories about himself. My mother acts like his personal hype-man: "Oh, Steve is the best," about absolutely everything. The best driver,...Read more

Who is worse, his allergy-denier girlfriend of her cat from hell?

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My girlfriend has a horrible cat. Most of this is her fault because she's never tried to train him out of attacking people, stealing food, and screaming continually in the night because he used to be an outdoor cat. Her parents live out in the country, and he was basically a farm...Read more

Learning to set boundaries guilt-free

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

Now that I'm getting pretty good at setting boundaries (thank you for your help with that!), how do I stop feeling guilty about it?

For example, I plan my entire week so I don't have to leave the house on Sundays. It's my day to spend time with my dogs, get things done around the...Read more

Small-town cancer patient tired of all the attention

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I live in a small town, and am being treated for cancer. I'm an extremely private and sensitive person. I don't want pity or to have to explain my situation to people when they see the little hats I wear. In the beginning I'd just say, "I have a little cancer thing happening, it's all going to be fine, I'm fine." But now, the ...Read more

Advice for a minor with a crush on a 22-year-old

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hello Carolyn:

I'm a 16-year-old who works at a coffee shop in a small town. Lately I've been working with the same guy a lot and I've started to notice my heartbeat rising before I walk in the door. He and I get along very well and have very similar ideologies. We like the same shows, games, ...Read more

TV-cheating done right

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My spouse and I have a long list of TV shows scattered through our streaming queues, but there are some I really want to watch, which she says she wants to watch with me, but she never actually wants to watch when I suggest them. We're talking stuff that's been on the DVR for three years in some cases.

I have tried to explain ...Read more

For two years, they cared for vulnerable kids. Now he wants them gone.

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Two years ago, my wife and I took in her two half-siblings, ages 5 and 8. It was an emergency situation, her mom had real problems I don't want to get into, and their dad was overwhelmed and we really had to step up.

Now my mother-in-law is completely out of the picture, but the...Read more

 
 

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