Dear Annie: When I was a freshman in high school, I became friends with "Agnes," who was (like me) something of a social outcast. Agnes still considers me to be her best friend. That was 10 years ago.
We have both grown up to be very different people. I am repelled by Agnes' lifestyle of promiscuity and high-risk behaviors. Although she is ...Read more
Dear Annie: My brother and his wife recently stayed with us for nine months. He did some part-time work every now and then. His wife refused to find a job and mostly stayed home.
My wife and I work long hours. We also then had to do the grocery shopping, cooking and taking care of our kids afterward. During this time, my brother and his wife ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have five younger brothers who mean everything to me. Three of them still live with my mother. Mom lived with an abusive man for years. When I was 11, she chose this man over me and put me in a foster home for two years. He is now out of the house and away from my precious little ones, but I'm afraid it's temporary. Mom claims ...Read more
Dear Annie: Years ago, Ann Landers published an essay about a woman who sees a stranger in the mirror. Can you reprint it? It's very apropos to what some of my friends and I are going through. -- Northern California Girl
Dear Northern California: Here is an edited version of Rose Mula's piece, copyrighted in 1999. If you would like to read ...Read more
Dear Annie: My wife and I recently had several relatives over for a family gathering. During the evening's events, my 10-year-old nephew threw a tantrum and threatened to hurt my 1-year-old son. He said, "If someone doesn't get him off of me, I am going to throw him." I called for my son to come to me, hoping that my sister would correct her ...Read more
Dear Annie: I've been married to my lovely wife for nine years, and to this day, I can't get past her gambling habit. It is causing major problems in our marriage.
Once or twice a week when she gets that itch to head to the casino, she loses all the money she earns in our account and then accumulates bank fees and overdraft charges. I'm fed ...Read more
Dear Readers: Welcome to 2019! We wish each of you health and happiness. We hope this year is better than the last and not as good as the next. Do your best to make this year special. Be kinder. Be more patient. Be more tolerant. Help someone in need. Vow to look after your health, work out more, eat less junk, give up smoking. Turn over that ...Read more
Dear Annie: Three months ago, I attended the funeral of a friend and former co-worker, "Renee." I went in, signed the book, gave my condolences to her husband and was speaking to some friends. At that point, another co-worker came up to me and said I should sit in the back of the mortuary because Renee wouldn't want me there. I was stunned.
Dear Annie: I have two grown daughters. I don't know what I expected as we all grew older, but it certainly wasn't what I got.
Here's the problem with my older daughter, "Bethany." The three of us had lunch together, and afterward, Bethany said she was bored and had taken on part-time work as a phone sex worker. I was stunned and thought she ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a married mother with two children, both in high school. But I am in love with a man who is not my husband of 21 years. "Harry" is my first love, and he came back into my life unexpectedly. He is also married.
Neither of us is passionate or loving toward our spouses anymore. We both feel that we are growing apart from them. I...Read more
Dear Annie: I am an 84-year-old woman in love with a 92-year-old man. Since I'm rather old-fashioned, I do not believe in living with him unless we are married. However, marrying him could change our financial status. Is there any service that could be performed so that we may live together legally and not impact our children's legacy? -- In ...Read more
Dear Annie: One of my sisters has a lovely cat, but when we go somewhere with her, the kitty litter odor is overwhelming. It clings to her clothing and follows her everywhere. My sister is highly sensitive to criticism, so we haven't approached her about this. She probably doesn't notice the smell because she lives with the odor every day.
Dear Annie: You often print letters from older parents dealing with rejection from their adult children. This is literally an epidemic everywhere. Anger and hatred are destroying families.
My husband and I have three adult children, who were the delight of our lives. We had a typical loving family, with vacations, birthday parties and special...Read more
Dear Readers: Merry Christmas. We hope those who are celebrating the holiday are fortunate enough to enjoy it with family and friends. Here's the annual PNC Christmas, Price Index for those keeping track:
"The Twelve Days of Christmas"
On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me ... a partridge in a pear tree (cost: $220.13, an ...Read more
Dear Annie: I'm a 26-year-old female and have been engaged to a wonderful man for the past year. We had plans to marry after he graduates in June with his master's degree.
The problem started when, on several occasions, my girlfriends and I went out to the bars and danced until the wee hours. During one of those nights, I had a few too many ...Read more
Dear Annie: For the past several years, my husband has taken out a new credit card each January and maxed it out over the next 12 months. This has resulted in major debt, which I fear will devastate our family and possibly affect our children and grandchildren.
My husband is a good and caring person who often picks up the restaurant tabs for ...Read more
Dear Annie: Four months ago, I foolishly accused my 22-year-old daughter of something of which she was innocent. She was deeply hurt. I tearfully told her many times over several days how sorry I am. I begged for forgiveness. She said she is not capable of forgiving once she is hurt so much.
My daughter is engaged and planning a simple ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am in my late 70s and have been with a wonderful man for some time now. "Joe" and I both lost our spouses several years ago. We each own our own homes and are debt-free, although I have to watch my finances more closely.
Joe has asked me to sell my house and move in with him, but I have mixed emotions regarding our relationship....Read more
Dear Annie: After many years of using smokeless tobacco, I'd like to quit. Are there any effective measures one can take to beat this highly addictive habit?
I use the kind of tobacco that comes in a can, and it goes wherever I go. It wakes me up in the morning demanding attention. I believe it is partially responsible for my high blood ...Read more