Dear Annie: I am 18 and had been seeing casually a 15-year-old girl who lives down the street. We were mostly friends, although she hinted that she wanted something more out of the relationship.
When I turned 18, my father had a serious talk with me about the responsibilities associated with becoming a legal adult. One area of discussion ...Read more
Dear Annie: During a self-exam in March, I noticed a painful lump above my left breast. I was told repeatedly that painful lumps are rarely breast cancer, and that it was probably a benign fibroid. I was unable to get a doctor to take it seriously.
During an appointment for another procedure, I insisted that the doctor examine my breast. The ...Read more
Dear Annie: I've written you before, but this time I hit the send button.
I have three grandchildren. One is biologically related, and the other two are my daughter's stepchildren from two previous relationships. The older child currently lives with his father, who has an enormous family. The middle child had no contact with his father until ...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband and I separated 10 years ago when our children were preteens. He has shown little interest in them and maintains contact only due to my encouragement. My family always includes him when we have family get-togethers. His family, however, decided that being nice to us would be taking sides, so they ignore our existence.
Dear Annie: My husband and I have noticed that his sister's husband has been rather cool to us for quite some time. We can barely get a civil hello from him at family events, yet he is warm and friendly to others. To the best of our knowledge, we have not done or said anything that would warrant the cold shoulder.
My husband and I have many ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have been unemployed since April. My former employers signed a nondisclosure contract about the terms of my resignation. But apparently, if the company to which I am applying asks the right questions, they are told everything.
My question is: If my former employers signed a nondisclosure agreement, how can they disclose the nature...Read more
Dear Annie: I married "Henry" five years ago. It was my second marriage and his third. Henry thinks he is easy to get along with, but I find it difficult to communicate with him. If he doesn't like what you say, you are wrong.
Last year, Henry had an affair, and we went for counseling. He claims I forced him into the affair because I didn't ...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband and I adopted our daughter at birth. When my mother-in-law found out that "Amanda" is biracial, she informed my husband that we were no longer welcome in her home. Initially, she admitted it was simple racism, but now she says it's because she can never accept a child "not of my own blood." When our daughter was 3, Mom ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have three daughters, the youngest of whom is 45. "Susan" has not been in a relationship for five years, and she has a severe drinking problem. She has had two DWI convictions and lost her license for a year. She received the usual counseling, did public service, paid a hefty fine and felt the embarrassment of seeing her name ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for more than nine years and still have a problem with my mother-in-law. When I had a bridal shower, Mom didn't reply, didn't show up and never sent a card. This made me feel unwelcome. (She still has a picture of my husband and his ex-girlfriend on her wall.)
I told my husband that when we have a ...Read more
Dear Annie: My 12-year-old son recently informed me that his 18-year-old cousin was molesting him. I immediately informed my in-laws. They were in shock and denial. Both said, "Are you sure? Maybe they were experimenting." I was outraged and disgusted, and so was my husband. I went to the police and filed a report.
Both the perpetrator and the ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am 57 years old and divorced. I am now engaged to a woman who is 29 years my junior. "Carla" is everything I ever wanted. I never intended to fall in love with her, but I needed a friend, and there she was. She feels the same way.
Here is the problem: Even though we are engaged, Carla's parents do not know I exist. For the past ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am in my late 20s and have been happily married for over five years. Here is the problem:
My parents divorced when I was little, and my father is an alcoholic. Ever since I can remember, he would call me on the phone, drunk and rambling so much that by the end of the call, I would be in tears. The past couple of years he's gotten ...Read more
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my wife left me. I went to counseling immediately, and we worked hard to get back together for the sake of our children. We eventually reconciled. While I try not to dwell on the past, something still troubles me, and I'm not sure what to do about it.
A few days after "Jane" left me, I had a tearful phone conversation...Read more
Dear Annie: My brother and "Melanie" had a baby together (unplanned). The boy is now 2 years old. Melanie moved in with my brother before the baby arrived and stayed until two months ago. She was never overly kind to my brother, frequently making insulting remarks to him and saying she could never love him or the baby. But he truly was in love ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have a 35-year-old daughter with two children (ages 13 and 2), and they all are living with us. "Micki" moved in after leaving her common-law husband a few months ago. He was the third man in her life.
Since Micki has been home, she has been going out every weekend. I am "old school" and believe she should come home from work and ...Read more
Dear Annie: I work for a major corporation, and I like my job. However, my boss has betrayed me.
She is single, and I wanted to set her up with a friend of my boyfriend. She sent me her picture, and my boyfriend asked me to send the pic to his phone so he could send it to his friend. Instead of doing that, however, he texted my boss all night ...Read more
Dear Annie: My nephew was in the hospital last summer. Because the hospital is closer to our house, his parents and the nephew's 17-year-old girlfriend stayed with us for two nights.
Within a few hours, we noticed $70 was missing from a container on the kitchen counter. We asked if anyone had seen or moved it. That same evening, the girlfriend ...Read more
Dear Annie: We are the grandparents of a beautiful 4-year-old girl. We have been watching her for the past three months because her parents had their water service shut off due to lack of payment. A month ago, they had their gas and electricity shut off, as well. They are living off of the welfare system with no other means of support.
In the ...Read more