Dear Annie: My married daughter has decided to estrange herself from her stepfather and me. We have not spoken since she rudely shrugged me off at her son's graduation party last June. I recently began counseling to help me deal with the situation. The counselor thinks my daughter may have narcissistic personality disorder. The additional ...Read more
Dear Annie: My mother has always been a strong presence in my life. Growing up, I couldn't do anything right. She took things away from me and redid them, or stood over me and directed.
Three years ago, my husband suggested we move my parents in with us because their neighborhood had become drug and gang infested and we feared for their safety....Read more
Dear Annie: Please advise your readers not to hold onto any letters that contain family information or intimate details of a relationship that should remain secret. I was cleaning out my mother-in-law's house after her death and came upon letters addressed to "My dearest wife and son," written while my father-in-law was away at war. As I started...Read more
Dear Annie: In three years, I will be away at college. I am concerned because Mom has a boyfriend with a major anger problem, and he throws tantrums and gets abusive.
Mom has been in this relationship for a few years, and I'm afraid when I leave he will do some serious damage and I won't be there to protect her. She has been going to therapy, ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a 38-year-old single man with a serious problem involving my 13-year-old nephew, "Hayden." Hayden's father died when he was 3, and I immediately stepped in as a surrogate parent. We share a close, affectionate relationship, and he has spent the night at my house on numerous occasions. There was never a problem until a month ago....Read more
Dear Annie: What do you think about a married couple whose only intimacy is makeup sex? My husband says he loves me and I believe he is faithful, but he never initiates anything in the bedroom, and we have sex only if I pitch a fit because I feel neglected. I don't do this often, so we've had sex only twice in the past 15 months.
We are both ...Read more
Dear Annie: Can anyone tell me why old men (over 60) don't or won't shower or put on clean clothes?
I have several older male friends who smell so bad that we don't want to be any closer than 12 feet. And they wear the same clothes for weeks until the clothes almost fall off their bodies. When they come to visit, the furniture where they sit ...Read more
Dear Annie: I married my high school sweetheart 39 years ago. She is the only woman I have ever slept with, although I am not her only man.
When our second daughter was born, her new employer paid the hospital bill. I never suspected anything then, but she started working late and going out for drinks while I stayed home and took care of the ...Read more
Dear Annie: Tragedy has struck our family. A cousin killed himself on Easter Sunday. I never thought my cousin would do this. He worked with troubled teens and their families. He was outgoing and strong, and helped others through their own tough spots.
A few years ago, his son died by suicide. Since that time, my cousin struggled with ...Read more
Dear Annie: Young people are ready, willing and able to tackle the world's most difficult challenges, and yet are vastly underrepresented as active citizens, decision-makers and problem solvers. From the third-grader in Detroit distributing meals to the homeless, to the high schooler in Jakarta collecting gently used books to develop literacy ...Read more
Dear Annie: My cubicle is separated by a low wall from "Terri," the woman who works next to me.
Here's the problem: I might be talking with seven other people near me at different times and we could be whispering, but Terri manages to hear the conversation and always has an opinion to add. Every associate who works near Terri has an issue with ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am 15 years old and I love your column. Here's my problem: Ever since I was a little girl, I had one dream -- to become an astronaut. I would gaze at the stars for hours each night, and I learned everything I could from books.
However, my parents have always drilled into me that I was to become a doctor or lawyer. They are very ...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband and I spend winters in a three-bedroom condo in Florida. A month ago, our daughter and her two teenage girls visited. We love having them. Here's the problem: The girls share a bedroom with ample room for their clothes. But by end of the week, no clothes were in the drawers. Everything they had, dirty and clean, was on the...Read more
Dear Annie: I want to write a letter to all the adult children who enjoy overnight visits to Grandma's house with the kids. We love to have you.
But I have to tell you that Grandma is getting older and slower. She's also caring for Great-Grandma. Oh, she puts on a good show, but the truth is, she needs to rest after you leave. So, I would like ...Read more
Dear Annie: Our only child is 30. "Delia" was diagnosed with serious mental issues as a teen, but with the help of a sensitive child psychologist and an excellent child psychiatrist, she did very well. But as soon as Delia turned 18, she aged out of the child psychiatrist's care. She only sees her new doctor when she needs to refill her ...Read more
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my husband bought a dog from a breeder. It is a designer dog that's supposed to be hypoallergenic, since I have very bad allergies to dogs. (I take medication now.)
Here's the problem: We didn't know at the time that the dog was part of a litter that came from our neighbor's dog. The mother still lives with our ...Read more
Dear Annie: I'm 55 and have been married to the same man for 27 years. Before we met, my husband had been living with "Miranda" for six years. Although Miranda has had many relationships since, she never married.
All these years, my mother-in-law and two sisters-in-law have maintained a relationship with this woman, often meeting for lunch. ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have a different problem with people taking off their shoes. I work in a small office where we have outside visitors on a daily basis. One woman who works here likes to take off her shoes and walk around barefoot. No socks, no slippers, nothing. I think this is totally disgusting, as well as unprofessional.
The managers in the ...Read more
Dear Annie: In the past year, we have been told that two members of our family are gay. One of them is transgender. At the time we were told, most of us were speechless. I did say, "I wish you happy, lovely days ahead." But how would everyone want us to respond? What would someone who recently came out as gay or transgender like to hear? We love...Read more