Dear Annie: Several years ago, I stayed with my aunt and uncle for a week. My aunt sent me down to the basement to tell my uncle to come upstairs for dinner. When I turned the corner, I caught him pulling up his pants in front of the computer screen. He asked me not to tell my aunt, and I didn't.
During my time there, he did several other ...Read more
Dear Annie: Our daughter, "Mattie," is 42 years old. She has been married for 10 years and has two school-age children. Due to her husband's work transfers, Mattie twice was left alone with the children for several months while she tried to sell the house and her husband moved to the new location.
The first time it happened, things worked out...Read more
Dear Annie: I have been in love with "Cliff" for four years. We bought a home together two years ago, but soon after, he became unemployed, angry and spiteful. I tried to tough it out, believing it would eventually get better, but when Cliff became verbally abusive, I took my two kids and left. I asked him if he wanted me to stay, and he said ...Read more
Dear Annie: My parents and brother live in another state. A few years ago, my brother went through a nasty divorce. He and my 11-year-old niece, "Jenny," are still estranged from the ex-wife.
The issue is how my mother is reacting to the divorce. She was very shocked by the events leading up to their separation, and I think it has damaged her...Read more
Dear Annie: My wife and I are having marital problems. Our issues started when I caught her lying to me and talking privately on the phone to my best friend of 12 years -- the same guy who was the best man at my wedding. After arguing for a few days, I asked her to make a sincere effort to go for counseling, and she agreed. I also asked her to...Read more
Dear Readers: Happy Valentine's Day to one and all, along with our special good wishes to the veterans in VA hospitals around the country. And our particular thanks to those readers who have taken the time to send valentines, visit the vets and volunteer at VA facilities. Bless each and every one of you.
Dear Annie: My older sister and I are ...Read more
Dear Annie: My brother, "Jay," and his wife have an adopted daughter, "Anna," who is now 3 years old. We adore her.
Jay and I recently got into an argument. He said they were angry that we didn't call Anna on her birthday. I was surprised by this, as we had already wished her a happy birthday in person, with a gift and a card at her party a ...Read more
Dear Annie: Twenty years ago, my wife had an affair with a co-worker. It ended when he moved back to his home state 2,000 miles away. At the time, I asked my wife to go to counseling with me. We made it to one session before she pronounced our marriage "healed."
Sixteen months ago, out of the blue, this same guy contacted my wife via email, ...Read more
Papa and Mama Said: Full of Dare County FolkloreLucinda Gallop Baum
A delightful look into the good old days in Dare County North Carolina. This charming book, told from the perspective of an 8 year old as she grows up in a large family and close knit community, contains stories and anecdotes about life in the days of the Great Depression and is full of old ...
Dear Annie: When I married "Joe" three years ago, I moved into his home with my preteen daughter. Joe has two older children and a teenage son. I agreed that the youngest son would stay with us during the week and live at his mother's on the weekends. Since then, however, his teenage son has decided to stay with his mother, which is fine. ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am 39 years old. For the past 20 years, I have had ongoing therapy to recover from the sexual abuse I suffered as a child. My abuser was my half-brother. When I finally said something at the age of 13, my family did not believe or support me. Since then, family gatherings have been especially difficult because my family expects ...Read more
Dear Annie: This is in response to "Tired in Rural Oregon," whose kids are slobs and whose husband doesn't care. I told my kids if they didn't pick up their messes, I would hire a "maid." One day, they came home to a clean, organized house. I said the "maid" had come. When I handed out my children's allowance for the week, I took back the ...Read more
Dear Annie: I lost my beautiful daughter to suicide six months ago. A strong and able firefighter, she was also extremely active in her community.
Naturally, I leaned on my mother for consolation, but I didn't find it. Instead, my mother was distant and uninterested in my pain. It was an effort even to get her to attend my daughter's memorial...Read more
Dear Annie: I'm a teenager, and my friend told me he's having suicidal thoughts. His dad is really hard on him, and I suspect he's verbally abusive, as well.
He made me promise never to tell anyone and said he wouldn't actually go through with these thoughts. But I don't know what to do. Would it ruin him if I told someone? And who would I ...Read more
Dear Annie: I'm a mother in my mid-20s and a very concerned sister. My brother, "Dennis," is four years younger and the first to graduate high school. He went to college and had everything going for him. Now he is throwing it all away.
Dennis turned to drugs and has missed important moments in our lives, such as weddings and holidays. He only...Read more
Dear Annie: After two months, I am still upset with my father-in-law. My two daughters recently married, and the weddings were six weeks apart. My in-laws gave us a nice sum of money to help us with the weddings. We were very grateful and told them so.
Right before the first wedding, my husband lost his job. In order to finish paying for the ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have been with "John" for more than 10 years. We have children together. I have reached the point in my life that I wish to be married. I never wanted to be a girlfriend forever, and he knew this from the beginning.
John says stupid things like, "If you did such-and-such, then I'd marry you." I don't believe marriage is about ...Read more
Dear Annie: My family wants to move to another state. The only reason we haven't is because of my dad's job. He has worked for the same company for 18 years and doesn't want to lose his retirement benefits. I understand how important the job is, but the company could easily allow a transfer to another branch.
Whenever we try to talk to Dad ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am married to an absolute angel. Unfortunately, her mother has been living with us for the past two years. Mom doesn't work, doesn't do much of anything around the house, doesn't cook or clean, and sleeps until nearly noon. We have to ask her to do things, just as we would a child, and then she responds as if we're scolding her. ...Read more
Dear Annie: Two years ago, my son's fiancee recommended we rotate who hosts Christmas dinner. That year, she and my son went to her mom's house, and last year they were supposed to come to mine. Instead, they went to her mom's again and were upset that I didn't want to tag along. Annie, at the time, my 73-year-old mother was in a rehab ...Read more
Dear Annie: With the recent events that have occurred across the country involving mass killings, this has prompted me to ask a question. What do you do if you know someone you think could end up in the news involved in a mass killing? What do you do with those gut feelings?
I know someone who has prompted me and others to think, "This guy is...Read more