Dear Annie: I am the stepmother of a lovely young woman, age 29. "Daria" was 2 when her mother left, and her older brother has reported that Mom was neglectful and suffered fits of rage. She actually told the children on many occasions that she couldn't stand them. She continually took them elsewhere to be cared for. Luckily one of those places ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am an active person, and my wife used to be until a bout with cancer. She no longer has the physical endurance she once did. I try to make this work with shorter trips, shorter walks and simpler activities.
But when I want to do something that she is unable to do, she becomes angry and resentful that I would even consider going ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am 41 years old, the youngest of three daughters. I am also the only caretaker for our parents and am growing increasingly frustrated by the lack of assistance from my sisters. I cook, clean, do repairs, handle bills and cover all the transportation.
I am underemployed, unmarried and uninvolved in any activity beyond the care of ...Read more
Dear Annie: Our neighbor "Ellen" is having an 80th birthday party for her husband. She has invited about 40 people, including my husband and me and the "Smiths," another couple who are neighbors. We've had many disagreements in the past where the Smiths have yelled and sworn at us. Now we ignore them.
Ellen told me we could come over to her ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a married woman in my early 60s. My husband and I have been married for 35 years. We get along fine most of the time. He is a good man and a good provider. He can be opinionated at times, but he loves his family and friends.
The problem is his constant need for sex. During our early years, I went along with it, but he would ...Read more
Dear Annie: I've been on antidepressant and bipolar medication for 12 years. The problem is, I feel I am being overmedicated. I want to sleep all day. I am also legally deaf. I live with my parents because I am unable to drive. My depression and resulting destructive spiral caused my grades to go south in college, which has interfered with my ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am 74, slim and in perfect health. For the past six years, I have been living part time with "Fabio," my 81-year-old Italian boyfriend. I have supported him through lung cancer and other medical problems. Now he has decided he needs someone 60 or younger to entertain him.
A year ago, Fabio secretly joined a singles group. He ...Read more
Dear Annie: I was in a long-distance relationship with "Jerry" for six years. He frequently spoke about commitment, but when he still wasn't ready to do anything after all that time, I broke things off. That was a month ago.
Although our breakup wasn't particularly acrimonious, it has been difficult emotionally. I used to spend summers with ...Read more
Dear Annie: I have been married for two years to a man I love, and we have a new baby daughter. I should be happy, but I am not.
Annie, I do not like sex. I didn't like it on my wedding night, and I don't like it now. I was raised in the Catholic Church, and sex before marriage is a sin. My husband respected my wishes. So how is it that just ...Read more
Dear Annie: My 42-year-old granddaughter is currently living with me. She has been evicted twice for not paying rent, her credit is no good, and she can't find anybody who will rent to her. She has three young children who are living with my son (her father) and his wife.
I am 83 years young and cannot have the children here. It's bad enough ...Read more
Dear Annie: My 37-year-old daughter, "Raya," has claimed that my husband, her stepfather, propositioned her for sex several times when she was a teenager. But she never mentioned it to me until she was in her 20s.
Over the years, Raya has needed our help for housing and finances. When she borrows money, she rarely pays us back. Whenever Raya ...Read more
Dear Annie: Please tell me, when did alcoholism become a disease? A disease is when the body is ill and not functioning properly.
According to Webster's Dictionary, addiction is the quality or state of being addicted, and continues that it is a "compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance (as heroin, nicotine or alcohol) ...Read more
Dear Annie: I've known Owen for four years, and we are in various classes together. We email regularly and chat all the time, and I consider him my best friend. Our parents are good friends, too.
Recently, Owen and I have become closer than "just friends" and privately expressed our feelings for each other. However, once our parents found out, ...Read more
Dear Annie: When I was a teenager I gave up a child for adoption. Eighteen years later, "Doris" came looking for me, and we formed a very cordial relationship. By then, I was married and had three other children. Doris was also married, with children, and she and I visited often. I attended funerals, weddings, births, birthdays, dance recitals ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am a 14-year-old high school freshman who is depressed about my future. As a result of my premature birth, I have a heart defect and lung problems and am very small for my age. Recently, my family went to a local park. It was humid, and I was so worn out that my older brother let me ride on his back. Some classmates saw me and ...Read more
Dear Annie: I am the middle sister of three. My mother has always favored my younger sister, "Louise," despite periods of seriously bad behavior. Mom has bailed Louise out of numerous poor financial decisions. She also takes her and her son on cruises and buys them expensive presents.
I recently found out that Mom is giving Louise a regular ...Read more
Dear Annie: This is in response to Confused and Hurting, whose 18-year-old son had taken his life. The family felt the community was snubbing them, as well as their sixth grader.
When my brother died from AIDS 20 years ago, few people in our small town acknowledged his death. My parents were from a generation that didn't openly discuss their ...Read more
Dear Annie: I recently found out that my 62-year-old husband has been texting a woman with whom he had an intimate relationship in the past. He has admitted that these texts were flirtatious and filled with "dirty talk." He swears that there was no physical contact, but I'm skeptical. It's been going on for at least eight months, and I am not ...Read more
Dear Annie: My younger sister, "Nora," is 43 and acts like an 18-year-old brat. She became pregnant nine years ago by a drug addict who is currently in jail for raping a 14-year-old girl. (He is out of the picture, thank goodness.) I love my nephew, "Michael." My older sister and I keep him at our homes most weekends.
The problem is, Nora uses ...Read more
Dear Annie: My husband, an only child, never had a great relationship with his father, "Clyde." My mother-in-law died six years ago, and my husband passed away three years later. While things are improving for my daughter and me, we are both having a hard time dealing with Clyde, who is in his late 60s.
The day my husband died, Clyde said, "I'm...Read more