Carolyn Hax / Life Advice

'Ridiculous' Red Flags

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi Carolyn:

My housemate is smitten with a girl (nothing has happened yet), and he asks me for advice and I just have SUCH A BAD FEELING. It's so viscerally anti-her that I wonder if I'm secretly ...

Spanking a Child

Hello, Carolyn:

My question is, when is spanking a child OK? I live on a rural dirt road off a busy road. We have about seven neighbors and all know each other and help out when needed.

We have a young couple with two young boys, 4 and 3, ...

The Tortoise and The Hare

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband is Mr. Decision, chop-chop, everything has to be decided quickly and with little fanfare. I move more slowly, and am constantly being picked at and nagged to hurry up and make ...

Monitoring Kid's Chats

Dear Carolyn:

My phone plan allows me to see the texts of my kids, 19, 17 and 14. I monitor their chat occasionally. I don't let them know, and don't plan on intervening unless something gets completely out of control.

Selfishly I like to see...

Wasn't Certain About Marriage

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

In Monday's column, a man "wasn't sure if he ever wanted to get married." Are there people who actually think this, or does everyone use it as a way to continue enjoying the status quo ...