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DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married 31 years. We have a great marriage. We work from home, so we spend pretty much every minute together and enjoy each other's company so much that it isn't an issue. That said, I will also share that I'm a basement musician. It's my hobby. I play guitar and sing. In the past, I have appeared in bands as ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I moved into my apartment four months ago. While my sister, her son and I were moving things in, my new next-door neighbor introduced herself. She has since become intrusive. I am an introvert, and she knocks on my door wanting everything from plastic bags to cigarettes and alcohol. Every day since I moved here, she has been asking ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married 45 years, but over the last six months, we've had numerous fights about Facebook. I'm having issues with his addiction to social media and his constant posts and comments with people I don't know.

I get jealous about these interactions with women. He has never given me reason not to trust him, but I...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have just retired and want to spend the summer taking a long road trip from Florida to Alaska and back. I've dreamed about it all my life and finally have the time and money to do it.

My husband hates long road trips, and I don't want to take him. He would be miserable and make me miserable in the process. Further, he has a list of...Read more

DEAR READERS: As anyone who reads "Dear Abby" knows, I have always stressed the importance of writing thank-you notes. It is now time for me to put pen to paper. I have always considered you, my readers, to be my friends. Thank you for accepting me as warmly as you always have and thank you for being willing to share your joys, pains and ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My unpleasant older sister lives by the creed, "It's my way or the highway." As a result, she has no close friends, no husband or partner, no social circle. She was "strongly encouraged" to take early retirement from teaching because she couldn't get along with her co-workers.

After retirement, she joined a few clubs but soon quit ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: After a four-year battle with cancer, my husband of 27 years passed away. After his death, I was contacted by a guy I had been involved with 40 years before. He said he wanted me to know that he was there for me if I needed to talk or just needed some company. I told him how much I appreciated it and I would call if I felt he could ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 11 years and have two children. When we met, he worked two union jobs, paid his bills, saved his money and took care of his mother and grandmother when they needed his financial support. About six years ago, he decided he didn't want to work with the union anymore, and I supported him in ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend, "Adam," and I have been together for four years. We are very much in love and share similar views on most things. We agree that a marriage license is just a piece of paper and our relationship is already a marriage, so we don't need one.

We have also discussed the idea of having children in the future, and we agreed we ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I recently started dating a guy I have known for 30 years. He has moved in and asked me to marry him. Our relationship is perfect except for anything having to do with social media. He has an account on TikTok using a sexually suggestive name.

He's following 500 women and has just as many following him. I'm worried this will lead to ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: Our nephew "Conrad" is engaged to be married soon. For several reasons, we are unable to attend the wedding. Under normal circumstances, I wouldn't hesitate to send a generous gift as I have for our other nieces and nephews. However, Conrad is not normal. He doesn't speak to me, my husband or our children, two of whom are his age. We ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I'm 56 years old and have been married for 12 years. I don't want to drive an hour and a half to spend time with my husband's grandbabies. I have done that on many occasions and choose not to do it anymore. I'm not into babies -- or children, for that matter. He continues to ask me to go and can't understand why I don't want to. I ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: After many years living near and helping my parents, I moved to another state to retire. My dad died three months after I moved. I begged my mother to let me fly back and help her with his arrangements, but she insisted I stay put.

Some weeks later, and two days after we had talked on the phone, she secretly buried my dad's ashes ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have two best friends going back to third grade (we're in our 30s now) and one older sister. I'm the last in my friend group to get married. My fiancee and I are eloping this summer. We already own a house and need nothing, so I told my mother and sister that a bridal shower is unnecessary. Plus, since we are eloping, I felt it rude...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My husband has a twin brother and a younger brother. After I met his family, it became clear that his parents openly favor his twin, "Kaden." Based on childhood stories my husband and other family members told me, his parents have spent most of their time, energy and money on Kaden. Previously, it made sense. Kaden had health problems...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I've been with my wife for 23 years. We have three kids and are in our early 40s. My wife has always struggled with her weight, but two years ago she started a plan and has been successful. Her weight loss has prompted me to notice her more, and I've noticed as I've paid more attention to her in the last few years that she has a ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: How can I tell if my husband loves me? We have been married 41 years, and during our entire marriage he's been cheating on me with other women. He takes good care of me and is always there for me and our family. We hardly have sex. I try to give him a romantic kiss, but he only gives me a peck.

I have suggested that we go on date ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have four children, two of whom have congenital health issues we've been managing. One child is leading a "normal" life and is a spunky little kid. Our other child may be more impacted down the road, and we continue to seek answers. If people ask how either one of them is doing, we are open to sharing. Depending on ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I am the single mom of a 19-year-old daughter who copes with bipolar 2, ADHD, anxiety and depression. She has a mental age that's younger than her adult self. Over the years, she has gone through therapy and changes in medication.

It has been recommended that my daughter attend a residential therapy program, but she refuses. Since ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I married when I was 20 and my husband was 32. I grew up with a conservative view of marriage, so in a sense, I believed marrying early would grant me the most freedom as a woman. We have been married for five years and have a child.

Over the years, many people have offered unsolicited advice about how I "missed out on my 20s," or ...Read more