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Readers Respond to Rosemond Comments
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Parents readers are continuing to send ArcaMax feedback in response to the John Rosemond feature. Below are the most recent comments. Write us if you would like to be published in this ezine and on the Web site.

We thank the readers who are participating.

Reader Comment: Rosemond is Right about Driving Age Laws

I agree with everything I've read from the Rosemond feature, especially regarding the driving age. People should definitely have to develop a sincere respect for life before they can be legally given the right to put their own and others' lives at risk.

Reader Comment: Relationship Parenting Style can Lead to Abuse

I would like to commend John Rosemond for his bravery! I am a Behavior Consultant and I work with many children whose parents are building "relationships" with their children. These parents are experiencing aggression directed at them and their homes. So the relationships are abusive at the least.

Reader Comment: ADHD Goes Beyond Upbringing

After reading Rosemond's comments, I refused to take this e-magazine with any seriousness. I have taught special needs students and I know that children have problems that go beyond the way children are brought up. Rosemond's advice is terrible, not to treat a sick child is abuse. And these children need help.

Reader Comment: Tip for Dealing with ADHD

I interact regularly with a supposed ADHD candidate. Here is a tip that I have found that works really well:

Calmly point out to the child that the ADHD behavior is stepping over natural boundaries. This always grabs the child's attention. As he starts to flare up, firmly point out that this is the reason he is claimed to have ADHD. Generally within minutes the unwanted activity is quietly and calmly taken outside and everyone is left smiling.

Reader Comment: Rosemond's Ways are Most Effective

I am very thankful to have been using John Rosemond principles long before I even knew of John Rosemond. His principles are God's principles. I have four children who respect others, help others and give their time to others. They make "others" first, not themselves. Morals have been instilled in my children, they have been spanked when appropriate. I have no ADHD kids. Hard work and limited TV, computer and video games are a part of our lives. Our children don't drive unless they can purchase their own cars, pay for insurance, and pay for gas and repairs.

Let's stop raising a generation of "give me, buy me take me" children.

Reader Comment: Kids Have more Pressures these Days

I disagree with us already knowing what to do as parents and that it's easy -- all children are different. There are some things that are common sense but not everything. All parents can do is try their best for their kids, be there for them, etc., not throwing in the towel even though some times you feel like it. And about self-esteem -- it is important that children have high self-esteem and give their all in what they are doing without fear. Things are harder for children these days. There are more pressures than the good old days.

Reader Comment: Someone most Definitely Can Have ADHD

I really take issue with Rosemond's blatant statement that "there is no such thing as having ADHD." Evidently his study of this subject has been very limited. How can an intelligent person ignore the differences seen in ADD/ADHD and non-ADD/ADHD brains on SPECT (single positron emission computerized tomography) imaging?

Dr. Rosemond's statements may cause countless families to ignore treatment for members, both children AND adults, who desperately need medication for a dysfunctional brain. To leave people believing that problems such as ADHD or ADD are not organic problems but a result of faulty parenting or family dynamics is worse than ludicrous.

I speak as a sufferer of ADD who was not diagnosed or treated until my mid-50s, and my life has been transformed. I'm skipping Rosemond's articles from now on.

(For more on SPECT, this reader referenced http://amenclinics.com/ac/)

Reader Comment: Staying "Hard" on Children Despite Peer Pressures

John Rosemond's views on parenting are a breath of fresh air in this polluted society we have become. I am a 44-year-old mother of two and consider myself rather cosmopolitan regarding most issues of life. But when it comes to rearing my children, many of my peers say I'm "old-fashioned" because of the requirements and expectations my husband and I have of our children.

Mr. Rosemond's articles have encouraged me to continue in my "hard" ways and to not give in to the peer pressure. His essential belief that the parent probably knows best seems to conflict with many of my peers and much of the advice being touted by other "experts" these days.

Reader Comment: Agree with ADHD Comments

I loved the comments about ADHD. The TV is awful these days -- just one large commercial for those action toys that kill one another each Saturday morning.

Reader Comment: Rosemond's Ways are most Effective

I am very thankful to have been using John Rosemond principles long before I even knew of John Rosemond. His principles are God's principles. I have four children who respect others, help others and give their time to others. They make "others" first, not themselves. Morals have been instilled in my children, they have been spanked when appropriate. I have no ADHD kids. Hard work and limited TV, computer and video games are a part of our lives. Our children don't drive unless they can purchase their own cars, pay for insurance, and pay for gas and repairs.

Let's stop raising a generation of "give me, buy me take me" children.

Reader Comment: Valuable Insight -- but Wrong on ADHD

I have gained plenty of useful knowledge and suggestions from John Rosemond over the years. However, just like everything else in life there are caveats. If Mr. Rosemond stuck to his area of expertise, he could help so many more parents. I believe Mr. Rosemond is way off base with his advice on ADHD. He is confusing a behavior with an actual medical condition that is well documented.

Yes, some people can completely change their behavior by changing their thinking and reasoning. Others are totally incapable of changing things without changing their brain chemistry! Would you suggest to a diabetic to simply change his diet? Some of us are born with abnormal brain chemistry and others just develop it. To suffer in angst trying to feel normal is a hugely unjust way to lead your life. Mr. Rosemond: please consider all the biological data leading to many psychiatric disorders and all the wonderful medicines that help people to lead productive and happy lives.

Reader Comment: Rosemond Gives Non-Offensive Advice

John Rosemond's columns are very enlightening. He tells the truth whether it hurts or not. He does it in a very nice way though. No one should be offended at all since he does it with concern and humor.

Editor's Note: Do you agree with Rosemond? We'll continue to publish the best reader feedback you send us. Visit the Rosemond special section and submit us your comments.

Rosemond's Web site can be accessed at www.rosemond.com.

This news arrived on: 06/20/2006