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Happy Birthday to Robert

Jackie Gingrich Cushman on

This week, our younger child, Robert, is turning 19. His sister, Maggie, is two years older. Gone are the days when my husband and I were parents of toddlers, preschoolers, elementary school children and high school children. We are about to enter the phase of having both children in college.

As seasoned parents, we now realize that having a child was just the beginning; raising a child properly requires a daily effort. In the early years, it's physically demanding -- bathing, clothing, feeding, picking up, etc. In the middle-school years, it's more intellectually demanding. What is the best way to connect, to motivate, to reach a child? Every child is different, and what works for one may not work for another.

Our responsibilities as parents have grown from making sure they were fed, clothed and safe to ensuring that they learn the lessons needed to be successful and happy.

There are the personality lessons: Be nice to others. Be honest. Share. Be polite. And be cheerful. There are personal activity lessons: Be on time. Finish your work. And pay attention. All of these lessons are important, take practice and develop over time.

There are activity-based lessons: Work hard. Be responsible. And help others.

In addition, there are lessons in patience: Accept that it can take time to learn, which can be a hard process. Also accept that it can take time to achieve rewards for your work. Instead of complaining, it is often best to just accept that hard work is required and then sit down and focus. Soon, you will be surprised at how much you have learned and how much you have done.


And lessons in responsibility. Inherent in the concept of personal responsibility is the idea that each individual is responsible for himself or herself. You are responsible for your health, your finances and your life. You are responsible for understanding and obeying the rules and the law. When events do not work out as you may have expected or hoped, look first to yourself as responsible.

And lessons in acting charitably: Help others less fortunate than yourself. While you should be responsible for your activities, bear in mind that some people may find themselves in unfortunate situations due to circumstances beyond their control. Reach out to them and support them, whether through monetary donations or personal assistance. At some point in our lives, we will all need assistance from others.

As our children transition toward college, and as the demands of parenting change from the time-consuming and physical to intellectual and emotional, we are seeing the emergence of a new layer of lessons: lessons on how to structure our lives.

These are lessons I am still learning, lessons that we all need to consider as we travel through life.


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