Understanding is the last thing they want
What we've got here is failure to communicate.
Except it's not really failure. It's actually unwillingness to communicate, fear of what communication might mean. After all, if you communicate, you might understand some painful truths -- and then where would you be?
That's why discussing race with a white person is often one of the most vexing things an African-American person can do. You quickly come to understand that understanding is the last thing they want.
Take "Black Lives Matter." Those words, if you are black, are both an assertion of self-evident truth and a way of saying you are sick of unarmed people like you being killed under color of authority while juries and judges shrug and look away.
That message would seem to be clear as mountain air, which, for many white Americans, is precisely what's wrong with it. So they do everything they can not to comprehend.
They pretend confusion: "Black lives matter? Don't all lives matter? Are you saying black lives are more important?"
They rationalize: "It's not the cop's fault. If the man had stopped moving/talking/breathing hard, he wouldn't have been shot!"
They feign outrage: "Black Lives Matter is an anti-police terrorist group. They're the black Ku Klux Klan."
At some point, you begin wondering if the words you hear in your head are coming out in English. How is it you're both speaking the same language, but you're doing such a miserable job of being understood?
It's a frustrating, exhausting experience. If you've ever had it, you'll likely be touched by a recent story out of Vermont. It seems that, with the unanimous support of the school board, the Racial Justice Alliance, a student-led anti-racism group at Montpelier High, is commemorating Black History Month by flying a flag on campus. A flag that says, "Black Lives Matter."