Carolyn Hax / Life Advice

Not My Debt

Hi, Carolyn:

I finished my undergrad a year ago, have a good job, and consider myself financially stable. My boyfriend is finishing his master's and will graduate with $200,000 in student debt.

We've been together for nine months and have not...

Dealing With Mom Guilt

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

So Cousin No. 1 tells me in confidence that Cousin No. 2 had a miscarriage and asks me not to say anything to anyone, which I do not.

Fast-forward a few months, my mom finds out about ...

Trapped in an Unhappy Marriage

Dear Carolyn:

I have been unhappy in my marriage for a long time. So long, in fact, that it started long before it became a marriage. I always had an excuse for putting off ending the relationship. In the beginning it was, "I'll wait until ...

All They See Is the Alcoholic

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I am dating a very-newly-recovering alcoholic; he's been sober five months. We have known each other for almost two years and share many friends, most of whom knew him when he was still ...

Engagement Surprise

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hello, Carolyn:

My boyfriend and I have talked about marriage. I expressed that my big dream for an engagement is something big and public. I don't mean expensive, maybe just like one of those cute, on...

The Rennaissance Fair

Dear Carolyn:

I know this is going to sound SO DUMB.

My boyfriend participates in the Renaissance Faire.He enjoys this greatly, and doing so has greatly enhanced his self-esteem.

However, what this means for me is that from October to April,...