Taking the Kids: A Mother's Day gift guaranteed to please

No Mother's Day candy, please! Honestly, do you know a mom who isn't trying to shed a few pounds? (Me included!)

This Mother's Day, give the moms in your life something they will really appreciate. My friend, Nancy Schretter, managing editor of Family Travel Network calls it "Me Time for Moms with a Bow."

Have the kids make mom an IOU card for "Me Time with a Bow" that they can cash in on their next vacation. Why vacation? For too many moms, vacations are as one mom told me "home without a washing machine." They are a lot of work -- the packing and unpacking, the organizing, the meal planning ... the list goes on and on. Too often, they come home exhausted, wondering why they left in the first place, especially when babies and toddlers are part of the equation.

Not that dads don't do their part. Of course, they do. But moms tend to be the planners-in-chief and the worriers. What if we don't have milk for breakfast? What if it rains when we plan to go to the beach? What if we run out of clean socks?

That's why I think the most thoughtful Mother's Day gift can relieve some of that vacation stress and enable mom to relax. Remember that moms often feel guilty spending time and money on themselves, though they are the first to pamper the kids on vacation. But if it's their Mother's Day gift, that's another story. Here are five ideas:

IOU FOR A VACATION DINNER. If you are staying at a condo or camping, the kids (with dad's help) take charge of planning the meal, getting the ingredients, cooking, serving and cleaning up. If you are going to be kitchen-less, surprise mom with a fun night out some place she hasn't been. (Ask some of the staff at the hotel where their moms like to go for dinner or brunch. Take Mom somewhere that's owned and run by locals!)

AN IOU FOR MOM TIME -- Book her a facial or a massage. The five-star spa at Mandarin Oriental Boston, in fact, has a new seasonal treatment, Mother's Pampering. If the mom in your life doesn't enjoy spas, book her a tennis or golf lesson. How about standup paddle-boarding? Maybe she has always wanted to learn to scuba dive. Now you can do most of the coursework online with Professional Association of Diving Instructors (PADI) and do the certifying dives on your next tropical vacation.

Mom Time ideally should be for something moms never get to do at home, said Amie O'Shaughnessy, creator of the family travel website Ciao Bambino! Maybe that means a museum visit with a guide, a cooking class or a special tour.

This doesn't necessarily have to be expensive, but it will require some advance planning. For example, the Global Greeter Network offers wonderful free tours geared to your interest in cities around the world -- everywhere from Shanghai to New York, Sydney to Paris, where we got an insider's look at the hip foodie neighborhood near where the Les Halles market existed for generations.

Many museums offer free docent tours, but you need to know when they are being given. (Just check out the museum's website!) If Mom is an art lover, maybe she would want to see a new exhibit where you're visiting -- but it may require advance tickets.

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