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Parents Make Personal Decisions on Football

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. This is the first year my husband and I have allowed our 12-year-old son to play tackle football. He is a very talented athlete and does well in this sport; however, he recently suffered a minor concussion during a game that has left us concerned about him continuing on with the team. We realize kids can get injured at any time doing most ...Read more

Child May Be Visual Learner

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. I have been searching the Internet for days trying to determine what is going on with my son, to no avail! He has always had "quirks," and people have described him as "odd," "flighty" and a "daydreamer." He is very interested in science, Legos and the video game Minecraft. When he was little, he would sit for hours and put together these ...Read more

Eighteen-Year-Old Wants Tattoo

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. My 18-year-old daughter would like to honor a dear friend who tragically died in a car accident with a tattoo of that girl's favorite inspirational quote along the inside of her left arm. The quote is beautiful, but a bit long. I think it's sweet of my daughter to want to honor her friend, but I am opposed to her doing something as ...Read more

Mom, Don't Be a Wimp!

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. My daughter is a first-grader who continuously behaves in an angry way toward me. Even when I ask her to do such a simple thing as turn off the light or flush the toilet, it's accompanied by her glaring at me and stomping her feet as she walks away. She does not behave this way toward my husband when he asks her to do the same things.

I am...Read more

High-Energy Child Needs Positive Structure

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. I am hoping you might be able to offer suggestions to encourage calm and focus in my 4-year-old daughter. She is easily frustrated and shouts or cries when things don't go her way. She has a wonderful imagination and is clearly a right-brain learner, but any left-brain tasks leave her cranky and in her words "bored." She will be 5 in ...Read more

Mom Gives Girl Excellent Advice

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. My daughter, who is a junior in high school, is part of a close-knit group of girls who all do very well together except during the fall sports season. My daughter is not athletic, but the other four girls in her social circle are all members of the cross-country team, and they tend to ignore her and perhaps inadvertently exclude her until ...Read more

Parenting After Divorce

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. My husband and I are divorced, but although I have full custody of our two children, ages 13 and 9, they see their father often, and he does make it a priority to be present for most of their sports games and school activities.

He is making a sincere effort to be a good father, and he and I are able to remain cordial on issues concerning ...Read more

Timeout Very Effective for Strong-Willed Children

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. I have three very strong-willed grandsons, ages 7, 5 and 3. They are brothers, and the two oldest are very manipulative and argue with their parents constantly. The boys all seem to take cues from one another, so I fear it's just a matter of time before my 3-year-old grandson learns to behave in the same manner.

My daughter has been ...Read more

Repeating Grade in New School

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. Five years ago, my daughter, a single mom by choice, adopted my grandson from a Russian orphanage when he was 3 years old. Now that he's in school, he is a little behind his other classmates, plus he is one of the younger children in his class. My daughter will soon be starting a new job in another community and feels it's in her son's best...Read more

There Always Will Be Bullies

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. My 13-year-old son was recently shoved by a boy about his age at a local park because this other boy incorrectly thought my son had taken his basketball. When he confronted my son about taking the ball and my son denied it, this boy then shoved my son's shoulders so hard that my son fell down backward. When my son stood back up and asked ...Read more

Powerful Child Needs Patience

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. I have a 5-year-old son with some behavior problems. He's always been easily frustrated, even though he picks up new skills easily. He reads well and seems naturally athletic. If he feels he can't do something, he'll get angry and put very little effort into it. Some days it takes him a few minutes to do his homework; other days he'll cry ...Read more

Bring Dad Into This Talk

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. I have a strange, even uncomfortable question about my 16-year-old daughter. I've always been a conservative dresser, and I question the choice and style of clothes my daughter wears. I don't know the best way to suggest to her to "tone" down her dress. She's a very attractive girl, and her low-rise jeans and abdomen-exposing shirts really ...Read more

Avoid Battles With Picky Eater

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. My youngest daughter is 4 years old and a very picky eater. She won't try a food if she doesn't want to, which includes just about every vegetable, no matter how it is prepared. She'd rather go to bed early than eat even a bite of something I've prepared, and once, she went to bed at 6 p.m. and stayed there. If I prepare a meal with several...Read more

Top 10 Tips For University Success

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Each year at this time, a new group of students heads off to the exciting and challenging experience of pursuing their university education. The first year can be a difficult adjustment. They?re faced with more independence, more challenge and more responsibility than they?ve ever had before. Most students succeed, but many don?t. Based on my ...Read more

Child Is Hard on Pets

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. I am concerned about the way my 5-year-old neighbor interacts with animals. I have always viewed him as somewhat of an odd child, but I worry when I see him continuously wrapping his arms around his dog's neck and doing the same thing to other dogs in the neighborhood, including my own dog. His parents repeatedly tell him to stop hugging ...Read more

Grandmother Worries About Grandson

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. What do I say, as a 67-year-old grandmother, when my 8-year-old grandson tells me his father drinks too much? He also says his father is "no fun" because all he does is drink and watch television. My grandson's father is my son-in-law.

I read your column religiously and value your advice. I haven't any idea at all how to address this and ...Read more

Sibling Competition Is Difficult

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. I am a single mother who lives with another single mother, and together we are raising a 7-year-old girl who is struggling and a 5-year-old gifted child. The 7-year-old shows no confidence in her reading, and I wanted to know whether doing activities like spelling in the car with both girls is adversely affecting the struggling child? When ...Read more

Children Will Ask Questions About Gender Change

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. My younger brother, who is 35 years old, recently revealed that he's transgendered and is thinking about changing his sex. Besides being blown away and shocked by this information, I'm concerned about when and how I should explain this to my children, ages 2 and 5. I know it isn't time now; however, my brother is starting to wear a little ...Read more

Thumb-Sucking Can Cause Child Problems

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. My son just finished first grade, and I could not help but notice during the many year-end activities that a little girl in his class sucks her thumb constantly. I recently asked my son whether this is something she does often, and he replied that she has sucked her thumb since preschool. While this little girl's habit did not seem to ...Read more

Highly Sensitive Grandson Needs To Play Sports

Parents / Sylvia Rimm /

Q. I have a 9-year-old grandson who is highly sensitive. He is gifted and very intelligent in school, excels at math and reads at a very high level. The problem is that he is not athletic and is very sensitive. He has tried certain sports, but becomes very emotional if he makes an out or things don't go right. He will start to cry, which ...Read more


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