Q: I'm a mom to 3 energetic young boys. I grew up with two sisters myself -- in other words, "just us girls" -- so the constant competition between my little guys has been a real shock to me. Should I encourage or discourage my sons' competitive nature?
Jim: Here's what I think. There are exceptions, of course, but most boys are wired to ...Read more
The prestigious American Academy of Pediatrics has just released (November 2018) a policy statement claiming that "Aversive disciplinary strategies, including all forms of corporal punishment and yelling at or shaming children, are minimally effective in the short-term and not effective in the long-term. With new evidence, researchers link ...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: My 13-year old son told my husband and me that his gender identity is "non-binary" and that he wants to start using different pronouns -- "they" and "their" instead of "he" and "him." We asked whether that means he's gay, but he just laughed and said that there's a big difference between gender identity and sexual orientation. I'm ...Read more
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and last month we decided to move in together. He was married previously, has two children, and they share equal custody of the kids. I see the kids every other week, and we get along great, but I have yet to meet his ex. According to my boyfriend, his parents invite her to all their family's get...Read more
For the record, I believe in the concept of public (aka, taxpayer-funded, government, “free”) schools. I attended public schools and obtained an excellent education that challenged my intellect and imparted a broad understanding of the world and my place in it. I am forever grateful to my teachers. Some were more likeable than others, but ...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: In one of your columns a month or so ago, you took a swipe at Title IX, which most people think has done a great job of bringing equity to college sports. You even called it "dangerous." I don't see what there is to complain about. Please explain.
A: Thank you for asking. You're right: I did complain about Title IX and I did, ...Read more
Q: I recently remarried, but I'm miserable. My husband drives me crazy, his ex-wife is psycho, and his children run the show. After three years and eleven months, my ex has realized the error of his ways and has been calling me. He tells me he's sorry that he ran off with "that woman" and wants to go back together. I hate my life, I want to go ...Read more
One of my favorite rock songs of all time (“Hello, I’m John, and I’m a rock ‘n’ roll addict”) is “For What It’s Worth,” written by Stephen Stills and originally recorded by Buffalo Springfield. It begins, “There’s something happening here; what it is ain’t exactly clear….”
That lyric occurred to me as I contemplated ...Read more
Q: My ex and I have four children. We are separating and thinking about splitting the children -- two go with him, two go with me. It's just too much for us to try to raise four kids by ourselves. We have three girls, ages 15, 14, and 8, and a son age 11. We can't agree which ones should go with which parent. Do you have some suggestions? What's...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: This may sound a little stupid, but I'm not sure how to be a more involved dad. I work a lot and my wife is a stay-at-home mom. She seems to have everything under control all the time, and there doesn't seem to be much of a role for me. What can I do to be a better dad?
A: That's not stupid at all. A lot of guys are faced with the...Read more
In an opinion piece recently featured on FoxNews.com., Jonathan Pokluda explicates his Ten Habits of Extraordinary Parents. Pokluda, a teaching pastor at a mega-church in Texas, and his wife are in the midst of what he terms “the parenting experiment” with three young children.
In the introduction to his Ten Habits, Podluka says that ...Read more
Q: I sincerely believe my son would be better off with me. I did not see him much when he was very young -- we had him when we were 17 and 18. He is now 7 and in the last year I have spent a lot of time with him. His mother parties way too much and posts herself getting drunk on Facebook. It's time he lives with me. I'm going to court in two ...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad. We have an almost two-year old who keeps us pretty busy. Recently, though, my wife has been talking about having a second child. I'm honestly not that thrilled about the idea. We barely have enough time to take care of ourselves and our baby. How are we supposed to add a fourth person to our family?
A: For a lot of couples, the ...Read more
As the current school year kicked off, I began hearing the same-old, same-old report from teachers and principals: children who have never lied. At least, that is what the parents of said children claim.
When one of these highly-evolved kids is accused of misbehaving at school, his parents ask him for his side of the story, his take on what ...Read more
Millions of women have been changing their social media profile photos to black squares this month, but as a descendant of Helen Keller and a woman who helped enact Title IX for athletic equality, I've decided to be outspoken. These children's books, all written by women, should inspire girls and boys to rise up against tyranny and injustice ...Read more
With the holiday season quickly approaching, it's time to start thinking of gift ideas for family and friends. Amazon has released its list of the 25 most anticipated toys, from toys inspired by popular shows and movies to STEM games, robots, Disney princesses and more.
Think & Learn Rocktopus
Rocktopus from Fisher-Price teaches kids about...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: My 18-month-old has suddenly started freaking out whenever my husband or I leave him with anyone -- even places he knows well and with people he's known for a long time. What's going on?
A: Try to think about things from your baby's perspective for a second: For most of his life, he controlled everything that happened in his world...Read more
Q. My ex and I have been divorced for 6 years. Our daughter has been playing competitive soccer for the last two years. Her father was her coach and they traveled all over the state. She excelled, I will admit that, but it just got too much for our family -- and it's very expensive. I have two other children with my current husband, so I made ...Read more
When I was a child, my most important possession was my bicycle, followed closely by my radio.
My bike was how I got around. I rode it to school, friend’s houses, pick-up baseball games, shopping centers, and just about anywhere else my heart desired and my parents would allow (and some they wouldn’t have allowed).
My radio – AM-only ...Read more
Dear Mr. Dad: My 8-year old still wets her bed at night. She's really embarrassed about it and doesn't want to have sleepovers, either at our home or -- especially -- anywhere else. She's really stressed about it, which I imagine is just making the problem worse. How common is it for an 8-year old to be wetting her bed at night? How can we ...Read more