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A Reversal of Fortune for Motel 6 Mom

Lenore Skenazy on

Shaina Bell, the 24-year-old Ohio mom arrested for leaving her kids in a Motel 6 room while she worked her evening shift at a Little Caesars, has something much better than a pizza to deliver now: a home for her kids, made possible by the $165,000 raised for her family in a GoFundMe campaign.

"A lot of people are saying hurtful things, but a lot of people are also being there for me and showing great support," Bell said in an interview with WKBN. As for the funds, "I'm just overappreciative to what's going on."

The story began on Feb. 11, when cops knocked on the motel room door where Bell's daughter, 10, was home with her little sister, 2. After the girl told the officers that her mom was working and she would be back by 10 p.m., they arrested Mom on two misdemeanor charges of endangering her children. Then they threw her in jail. She was released on bail the next day, and her story quickly went viral. This is when you have to be glad social media exists.

Bell's mom, Danielle Hosey, launched the GoFundMe campaign after she started hearing that there were "people in the community that would like to send assistance to my daughter and her children." The funds are earmarked for them alone. The original goal was $5,000. Hosey wrote:

"This campaign was created to help Shaina and her children raise the money they need in order to secure permanent and safe housing. Everything raised will go directly to establishing a safe and permanent home for Shaina, Faith, Jai'Sean and Jade.

"We understand that everyone has a story and we are grateful that you are listening to ours. From the bottom of our hearts we not only appreciate the financial contributions, but also the outpouring of support in the form of kind words and understanding."

There were two large donations. Cleveland Cavalier Javale Mcgee gave $5,000, and Pierre "Pee" Thomas, co-founder of Quality Control Music, gave $10,000.

 

But there were also many donations of $10 or sometimes even $5, seeming to represent a whole lot of people saying, "I don't have a lot either -- and I understand."

Many commenters reminisced about how young they had been when their moms left them to go to work, and how this was not neglect. As Thomas, the $10,000 donor, wrote on Instagram: "My mom used to have to do the same thing when we were young, not cause of abandonment issues; it's because people can't afford child care working at a pizza shop. She wasn't hanging out at a club. She was at work."

Right now, Idaho, Oklahoma, Nevada, South Carolina and Texas are considering "Reasonable Childhood Independence" bills endorsed by Let Grow, the nonprofit promoting kids' resilience that I run. These bills ensure that parents who don't supervise their kids 24/7 -- whether by choice or circumstance -- will not be considered guilty of neglect unless there is obvious danger to their kids that they consciously or recklessly ignore. The law expressly protects the right of children to be unsupervised when they are mature enough to be trusted, as Bell's daughter plainly was.

"It's time to stop punishing parents in the name of protecting children," says Let Grow's legal consultant, Diane Redleaf, a children and families advocate who has worked for decades to make sure poverty is not mistaken for bad parenting. "Reasonable independence for children isn't neglect. It's time to make clear what true neglect actually looks like so that families can look to the law and the authorities enforcing it to protect the sanctity of their homes -- even when those homes happen to be a Motel 6."

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Lenore Skenazy is president of Let Grow, a contributing writer at Reason.com and author of "Has the World Gone Skenazy?" To learn more about Lenore Skenazy (Lskenazy@yahoo.com) and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate webpage at www.creators.com.

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