Q: I just turned 70 and have always been in good health. Despite my luck, I'm noticing that I share the same aches and pains as my friends.
I've maintained my weight since my 30s. I don't smoke, and I rarely drink. I'm active but not with any particular plan. Instead, I've kept up with nature walks, the occasional tennis match and housework.
Q: My husband passed away six years ago, and moving on has been a process. We were married for 37 years, and being on my own is strange, even now.
I never realized how much of my identity was formed by our relationship. We grew around each other with our own interests and talents. Beyond just missing my spouse, I've found myself having to ...Read more
Q: People around me have been talking about their plans for the new year, especially their resolutions for 2020.
I always liked making my own resolutions but haven't made any for the last several years. Because of my age, I make excuses that any plans don't matter and that my health could fail me at any time.
When our family was talking about ...Read more
Q: My wife and I have been getting excited to have all of our children and grandchildren over for Christmas. This is the only time all year that we all get to be in the same room at the same time.
It doesn't happen every time, but often at least one grandchild gets worn out from the party and gets fussy. We have one grandson who's 14, but the ...Read more
Q: This Christmas, I wanted to give my grandchildren some of our family heirlooms. I was planning to give jewelry to my three granddaughters and a watch to one of my two grandsons.
Unfortunately, I don't think my other grandson would appreciate that sort of present. From previous experience, I've learned that he wants cash, and I honestly ...Read more
Q: It's getting harder and harder for our family to talk to my dad. He's in his early 90s and still up and moving, but he's no longer on top of it.
Our main problem is that he doesn't make sense. He starts talking about topics without any introduction, so we spend several minutes in confusion. He also doesn't seem to listen to our responses ...Read more
Q: My health is getting worse, and I've made the decision to stop drinking. Alcohol has been making me feel awful, and it's no longer worth it. It interacts badly with my medication and makes me feel ill for several days.
I've been seeing a woman in my retirement complex for about a year, and she's a heavy drinker. She doesn't seem to have any ...Read more
Q: I've never gotten along with my brother-in-law, which makes family gatherings very awkward. It's especially strange, as I usually can get along with just about anyone.
No matter what I say, he finds reasons to correct me. His corrections are usually minor and sometimes completely wrong. It seems like he's compelled to have the last word.
I ...Read more
Q: One of my oldest friends just had a stroke and isn't doing well. She lives alone and didn't have anyone to catch the warning signs. As a result, the stroke ended up being much worse than it could have been.
My husband is at risk for a stroke of his own because he has high blood pressure and is diabetic.
What should I watch out for at home? ...Read more
Q: My wife and I have always hosted Thanksgiving at our house. It's our favorite holiday, and we've always loved to have our entire family in one place to enjoy one another's company.
This is the first year that we can't fulfill our tradition. I had a serious health scare earlier this year, and we made the decision to skip the stress of hosting...Read more
Q: My wife and I had been looking forward to retirement for many years, but it hasn't been as good for our relationship as we expected. We've been getting into a lot of fights, even though we don't have a whole lot of outside stressors, like family drama or financial woes.
We're clashing on a lot of minor issues and just don't seem to enjoy ...Read more
Q: I'm having problems maintaining my bonds with old friends. Although I've known many of them for decades, they've seemed to drop out of my life recently.
The last couple of years have been hard on me, and it feels like everything's piling up at once. I lost my husband, have been having health problems and now am losing my support network.
Q: Apparently, I smell. My son told me as nicely as he could, but the message was clear.
I had no idea but am glad to have been told (even if I'm embarrassed to hear it). I've noticed my sense of smell getting worse with age, but I didn't think it would affect me too much. Sadly, that doesn't seem to be the case.
If I can't tell anymore, how ...Read more