Senior Living


Health & Spirit

Dear Doug: Communication Setbacks

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: It's getting harder and harder for our family to talk to my dad. He's in his early 90s and still up and moving, but he's no longer on top of it.

Our main problem is that he doesn't make sense. He starts talking about topics without any introduction, so we spend several minutes in confusion. He also doesn't seem to listen to our responses ...Read more

Relationships & Abstinence From Drinking

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My health is getting worse, and I've made the decision to stop drinking. Alcohol has been making me feel awful, and it's no longer worth it. It interacts badly with my medication and makes me feel ill for several days.

I've been seeing a woman in my retirement complex for about a year, and she's a heavy drinker. She doesn't seem to have ...Read more

Dear Doug: Family Feud

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: I've never gotten along with my brother-in-law, which makes family gatherings very awkward. It's especially strange, as I usually can get along with just about anyone.

No matter what I say, he finds reasons to correct me. His corrections are usually minor and sometimes completely wrong. It seems like he's compelled to have the last word.

I ...Read more

Dear Doug: Stroke Signs

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: One of my oldest friends just had a stroke and isn't doing well. She lives alone and didn't have anyone to catch the warning signs. As a result, the stroke ended up being much worse than it could have been.

My husband is at risk for a stroke of his own because he has high blood pressure and is diabetic.

What should I watch out for at home? ...Read more

Dear Doug: Guest Etiquette

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My wife and I have always hosted Thanksgiving at our house. It's our favorite holiday, and we've always loved to have our entire family in one place to enjoy one another's company.

This is the first year that we can't fulfill our tradition. I had a serious health scare earlier this year, and we made the decision to skip the stress of hosting...Read more

Dear Doug: Relationship Maintenance

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My wife and I had been looking forward to retirement for many years, but it hasn't been as good for our relationship as we expected. We've been getting into a lot of fights, even though we don't have a whole lot of outside stressors, like family drama or financial woes.

We're clashing on a lot of minor issues and just don't seem to enjoy ...Read more

Dear Doug: Friendship Maintenance

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: I'm having problems maintaining my bonds with old friends. Although I've known many of them for decades, they've seemed to drop out of my life recently.

The last couple of years have been hard on me, and it feels like everything's piling up at once. I lost my husband, have been having health problems and now am losing my support network.

...Read more

Dear Doug: Senior Odor

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: Apparently, I smell. My son told me as nicely as he could, but the message was clear.

I had no idea but am glad to have been told (even if I'm embarrassed to hear it). I've noticed my sense of smell getting worse with age, but I didn't think it would affect me too much. Sadly, that doesn't seem to be the case.

If I can't tell anymore, how ...Read more

Car Rip-Offs

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My car is now 10 years old and has an occasional problem but mostly suits my needs. I've had to bring it in for repairs a few times, but my mileage isn't as high as you'd expect from a car so old.

I recently had my car towed to the dealership after having some problems with the engine. The dealership quoted me for an expensive repair and ...Read more

Outstanding Debts

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: Last year, my wife had some serious medical problems that put her in the hospital. I'm grateful every day that she has recovered, but we now have a lot of unexpected credit card debt. Our mailbox and voicemail are being hounded by debt collectors.

I was really looking forward to retirement in the near future, but now I don't know if it's a...Read more

Bathroom Retrofit

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My mother had a fall in the bathroom a few weeks ago and ended up with a minor concussion. After a short hospital visit, we ended up hosting her at our house to keep an eye on her. Now that she's back home, I find myself worried about it happening again.

I volunteered myself to modify her bathroom to avoid another incident. We were lucky ...Read more

Support Vs. Control

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My daughter has struggled with her weight for her entire life. Now she seems to have given up, and her health is suffering.

Her problem has always involved going to extremes, but nothing anybody says seems to help. She used to go on fad diets and lose a bunch of weight. But then she'd gain it all back with interest within a year.

I'm ...Read more

Food Insecurity

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: Due to my arthritis, I've been having a harder and harder time getting around. I finally started using a cane to help with the pain, but it doesn't help as much as I'd like.

I've mostly learned to adjust, but I no longer like to leave the house. Routine errands are especially frustrating, including grocery shopping. I also am increasingly ...Read more


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