Senior Living


Health & Spirit

Old Hurts

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My brother and I got into a horrible argument over a decade ago and haven't spoken since. He did something that I couldn't find it in myself to forgive, especially after a lifetime of similar behavior.

After quitting drinking, my brother has been trying to get in contact with me over the last few months to apologize. I don't see the point,...Read more

Keeping Cool

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: After decades of slogging through cold winters, I am now retired in sunny Arizona. Even if I've been enjoying the different weather and culture here, I'm still not used to the heat.

A few people around my retirement community are finding themselves in the same boat, and apparently, we should watch out for heatstroke and other problems.

...Read more

Selling Old Jewelry

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: I have a bunch of old, outdated family jewelry that none of my children are interested in. I have no idea if the items are even worth much.

I've figured out the rest of my estate plans, and I think the best option for me is to sell these old pieces and split the cash fairly between my heirs.

The only problem is I don't know where to start...Read more

Dentist Search

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: After 30 years of having me as a patient, my old dentist is ready to retire. He's been reliable and done great work, but now I have to find a new dentist.

I've heard horror stories from other people about bad experiences with dentists, but I have never had a problem myself. Now that I'm facing change, I don't know if I'll continue to have ...Read more

Adaptive Technologies

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: I've reached the point where I'm no longer able to use my computer easily, but it's important for doing so much. Many daily necessities, such as online banking, paying bills and shopping, are easier online, and I don't want to be dependent or inconvenienced.

Unfortunately, my eyes and joints are in disagreement. I struggle to read the ...Read more

Family Heirlooms

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: I have many old, family heirlooms in my home and am excited to pass them along to a new generation. These old family pictures, china and silver all require special care and attention, and I've done my best to preserve them.

Although these objects are precious to me, I know all too well about how families lose things over time.

How can I ...Read more

Family Histories

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My eldest daughter has been getting into genealogy and got the whole family to do DNA tests. Although we were excited to see the genetic breakdown of our family, now I wish we'd never done it.

When we looked at the results, it became apparent that my wife isn't related to her siblings; she must have been adopted, but we haven't uncovered ...Read more

Extra Plane Seat

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: I'm a big guy and always have been. Because I'm over six feet, flying has never been comfortable for me, but it's even worse now that I'm on medications that have caused me to gain a lot of weight.

I haven't flown in several years, but I received an invitation for my granddaughter's wedding (my first grandchild to do so!). I'm happy to fly...Read more

Hard to Swallow

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: I came down with a serious case of pneumonia two years ago and, thankfully, got better. Unfortunately, my doctor found out that one of the reasons behind my sickness was my problem with swallowing.

In the last few years, I've been struggling to get food down and have turned away from eating. Mealtimes take forever, and I often find myself ...Read more

Thinning Hair

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: I've always been proud of my hair, even as it started to turn gray with age. Other women always compliment me on how great it looks.

Now, I'm feeling like my healthy mane has abandoned me. My hair is thinner, and I'm self-conscious about it looking stringy or my scalp showing through.

What can I do to make it look better?

A: Learn how to...Read more

Home Repair Value

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My husband and I are looking forward to moving into a wonderful retirement community, which will put us closer to our children. In order to buy a home there, we're looking to sell our longtime family home for a reasonable price.

A major problem is that we haven't done work on the house for a long time. The decor is outdated, and many ...Read more

Snap Reactions

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: I was at a party in my retirement community a few weeks ago and ended up shooting my mouth off.

The topic of politics came up, and my neighbors and I are on opposite sides of the political spectrum. We've never had an argument like this before, but I found myself reacting to topics instead of thinking about them.

My neighbors are well-off...Read more

Patient Advocates

Senior Living / Dear Doug /

Q: My doctor told me that I should get a hip replacement, and I am on board with the plan after several years of pain. Even though it's a major operation, I am looking forward to having a working hip.

My insurance approved me to go to a rehab facility post-surgery, which will help me recover and be able to use my hip better.

When I told ...Read more

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