How can I interfere without interfering?
From the writings of the Rev. Billy Graham
Q: It’s generally thought that money is one of the main problems that leads to divorce, but I think it is something deeper … a bitterness from the past left unresolved. In trying to help some dear friends through rocky times in their young marriage (involving interference of in-laws), I’m seeking some answers that might help them, but I don’t want to interfere like their in-laws are doing. – M.C.
A: Among the many things that lead husbands and wives to divorce is money, but anything that drives a wedge between husband and wife creates tension. The deeper problem is often spiritual.
Marriage was designed by God. He meant for it to involve three people: the man, the woman, and God. When God is left out of a marriage, that marriage will likely be less than God intended it to be, even if it appears to be a happy one. When God is not guiding, husband and wife will often compete with one another rather than complement one another; accuse one another instead of affirm one another; find fault instead of forgive; exhibit selfishness instead of loving with a sacrificial love.
God is blessed when husband and wife live in unity. When God is at the center of this special relationship, joy can overflow the heart and peace can abide. This is clearly seen in Scripture. The Bible teaches that the holy bond of sacred marriage should be a reflection of Christ’s love for His people.
It takes great wisdom from the Lord to speak into another’s marriage. Breaking into a marriage can be like a burglar breaking into a home. It can be a violation of one’s privacy. The most important thing anyone can do for a young couple is introduce them to Jesus Christ if they don’t know Him, and then diligently pray for them daily and lead them to search out Scriptural truth.
(This column is based on the words and writings of the late Rev. Billy Graham.)
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