Tales From the Front: Beauty Is Only Skin-Deep, but Ugly Goes to the Bone
We all know you can't judge a book by its cover, but we still do it anyway. We look for something intriguing to catch our eye -- a bright color, a flashy design. We know it has nothing to do with the quality of the book, but we can't help ourselves.
How about when it comes to people? We know character is far more important than looks when it comes to choosing a partner, but we still find ourselves drawn to the shiny object across the room.
DREW: Ladies, when you purchase a product and take it home, you immediately begin to discard the packaging. First to go is the plastic bag it comes in. Next is any plastic shrink-wrap that guards it. You may save the box in the event the item has to be returned to the store, but this, too, is eventually discarded.
My point? Eventually, you'll get rid of the packaging and have to live with the contents. So why are you attracted to fancy packaging? Why do you fall in love with it? It's the content you'll have to live with. It's the content that you'll be sitting across the breakfast table from for years to come.
I understand you're looking for Mr. Dreamy. I sincerely hope that somewhere out there is a woman who's nearly blind, desperate and possibly suffering from a concussion, who believes I am her Mr. Dreamy. She'll find I'm also generous and caring.
MARLA: I'm a stable, educated, employed, well-rounded and generally nice woman. I'm chasing 30; I have no children; I'm a homeowner. Every man I meet regards me as his friend/sister/buddy.
I don't understand why men overlook the good girls, like me, because we don't look like the perfect women they see on magazine covers. I understand looks are important to all human beings and we should all seek a mate who is attractive to us. However, looks should not be the be-all and end-all! After all, beauty fades, but dumb is forever! (Thank you, Judge Judy.)
I've been told by several men that I'm nice and a great time on dates, but that I'm too tall (6-foot-1) or too conservative or too nerdy or too business-minded or too sick (I have a health issue). The bottom line is guys are single because they value surface over substance. Period.
CRAIG: I have to laugh when women complain about guys being superficial and only chasing after swimsuit models.
I'm actually a pretty decent-looking guy. I'm also well educated, well read and well traveled. I have a great job and good friends. But I'm short. When I'm at the clubs with my taller guy friends, the women flock around them.
I happen to know that the best-looking tall guy who gets the most attention is engaged but continues to date and sleep with women. Any woman with half a brain who spent 10 minutes talking to him would pick up on the fact that something is off with him. But they don't bother to see past the 6-foot-4-inch frame, white teeth and the bronzer tan.
And women say men are shallow!
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