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When Wacky Turned Dangerous

We return today to the tale of Matt and his psycho wife, Amanda.

In the two years they lived in their house, Matt estimates the locks were changed approximately 15 to 20 times. "I had to break in several times because she changed them and didn't tell me. She told me I didn't need a key and that there are lots of husbands who don't have them. ...Read more

He Had an Out and Didn't Take It

We recently had a tale of a psycho bitch that I thought was pretty darn scary. But Matt says his "saga" makes that one seem like "a fairy tale out of a Disney pop-up book."

Matt says his attraction to Amanda was simple. "She was blonde." He was 36 when they met, and she was 37. After dating just a few months, Amanda got pregnant and Matt "...Read more

She Wanted to Spice Up Her Marriage and Wound Up Needing Pepper Spray

After 25 years, a marriage can go stale. That was the state of Andie's marriage when she met Brian. He was a photographer with a distinguished resume, and she decided to have him take some "glam" photos. What she got instead was her life turned upside-down.

"I wanted something a little ''blue' to spice up my marriage. He sent me some of the ...Read more

The One Subject You Can't Compromise On

It wasn't as if Lizzie and Ryan didn't really know each other that well. They had dated for eight years before they married. And Lizzie says they discussed the issue of having children "quite often" early in their relationship and then again shortly before they married. They both wanted children, but not just then. Even though she was 31 when ...Read more

She's a Three-Time Winner

Dear Cheryl: My first husband died, and I remarried a man who adopted my five children. He also died after we shared a wonderful marriage. I was very lonely after my children married, and I married for the third time to a wonderful, caring man.

The problem is this: What should my children call him? He's their stepdad, and I believe that, out ...Read more

How Much Is a Stay-at-Home Spouse Worth?

We recently heard from Melanie, a stay-at-home wife and mother for most of her 27-year marriage. One day, her husband, David, cut off her household allowance and told her to get a job.

It brought up the subject of what a stay-at-home spouse contributes to a marriage and what it's worth. Here's what you had to say:

ALANA: My mother worked on ...Read more

He Wanted to Supersize Her

There comes that moment in some relationships when you know it's love. And then, in some relationships, there comes the moment when you know it's over.

JESSIE: I knew it was over when my boyfriend said, "She'll have the supersize" when ordering my McDonald's meal on our way to Florida. He had previously always made me eat diet food and work out...Read more

She Called His Bluff: Part II

When Melanie's well-to-do husband, David, cut off her household allowance and wanted her to work at the only job she could get -- at a big-box store -- she began divorce proceedings. Three hours before they were scheduled to appear in court, David begged her to call off the divorce.

"He said he'd realized that he couldn't live without me and ...Read more

She Called His Bluff

Melanie says her husband, David, is a professional man and has always earned a good income. Melanie was basically a stay-at-home mom. But after the kids were "launched," David suggested she look for a job. She was 50 at the time, and David was 52. They'd been married for 27 years.

"I looked around a bit, but there wasn't anything suitable ...Read more

Why Men Should Do Their Own Laundry

For most of her 23-year marriage, Carrie supported the family while Matt "chased his dreams" and "ran around like a 15-year-old."

As he got older, he became distant and started criticizing everything she did and how she looked. He would call her names.

"He once said I was the fattest mom on the block. I figured he was going through a midlife...Read more

Used Wives Can't Be Discarded Like Used Tissues

Dear Cheryl: I should be celebrating my 30th wedding anniversary in a few weeks, but four months ago, my husband Jack told me he wants to split.

We have three children. The youngest is in his senior year of high school. I've been a stay-at-home mom for the past 14 years, although I do work from home. All the money I make goes to the kids and ...Read more

Light at the End of the Divorce Tunnel

Divorce is right up there with death, illness, natural and unnatural disasters and financial hardship as one of the most traumatic events anyone can go through. But Julie and Amy are here to show that you can get through it.

JULIE: I've been going through the divorce process. I have a jerk of a soon-to-be-ex-husband who thinks he can just ...Read more

Take This Man and Shove Him

Dear Cheryl: I've been in a relationship with a gentleman that I have loved for over 10 years. At the beginning of our friendship, he lived with a woman. He claimed it was just for convenience. He had a job, but the lady paid the bills and provided his alcohol, so he could lie around drunk. He didn't know how to manage his bills or pay the ...Read more

This Was Almost a Dance to the Death

Many men think they've met, dated, even married the Psycho Bitch from Hell. Justin really has.

He met Nicole through friends who thought they'd be a good match. He was 30 at the time. She was 25. He was a lawyer. She was a dancer. He'd never been married. She was divorced.

He was instantly smitten. "She was tall, with a dancer's posture, ...Read more

How Miserable Do You Have to Be Before It's OK to Leave?

We recently heard from Lost. He and his wife married because she was pregnant. It's now 14 years and two daughters later, and he's miserable.

Three years ago, he had an affair with Sandy, who was also married. When his wife found out, he ended the affair, telling Sandy he couldn't leave because of his daughters.

"Now," he says, "I'm so ...Read more

A Major Communication Failure

It seems the very least you owe your spouse before you ask for a divorce is the reason you want it.

Charlie and Nancy have been divorced for six years, and he still doesn't know why she wanted out.

"I thought we were happily married. We had a beautiful house in the suburbs, nice cars, two beautiful children. I worked two jobs, and she was a ...Read more

When Everything Is Nothing

Dear Cheryl: When we met, I was a little girl, 13 turning 14, and he was 16 and on his way to the Marines. I truly loved him. He was my everything. We had two kids and were living together after I was put out by my mother because she said she'd rather die than have a bunch of babies in her house.

There was nothing to do but "put a ring on it....Read more

Take This Ring and Shove It: Part 2

If the marriage goes south, you can always burn your wedding pictures. But what do you do with your rings? Throw them? Sell them? Give them away?

JACK: I asked my buddy's wife, who worked in a jewelry store, to help me pick out an engagement ring. I wanted to surprise my girlfriend of three years. The ring was simple yet elegant, I thought, ...Read more

It's Good to Be Friends With the Boss!

Cathy had a feeling her husband Jack was having an affair with his boss, June. But each time she asked, he denied it. June was "just a friend."

"When you spend all your time with someone and have no time for your family, something's going on."

It was the night of their son's 20th birthday. Cathy was driving home from work. She was going to ...Read more

Think Long and Hard Before Divorcing

Dear Cheryl: My wife and I have been married for 14 years. She was pregnant, and I did what I believed was the right thing by marrying her. I don't think I ever loved her the way she hoped.

Three years ago, I had an affair with Sandy that got really serious. There were hundreds of text messages, and we met every day.

She was married. She and...Read more


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