We all know you can't judge a book by its cover, but we still do it anyway. We look for something intriguing to catch our eye -- a bright color, a flashy design. We know it has nothing to do with the quality of the book, but we can't help ourselves.
How about when it comes to people? We know character is far more important than looks when it ...Read more
Hannah says she always knew she'd write to me someday. "I always thought I'd be writing to you about my love and my relationship with my husband, but he ruined my life. Let me start at the beginning."
Hannah says when she first saw Jackson across a crowded bar during a dart league, he was someone she "wanted/needed to meet. He was bright, ...Read more
We recently heard from Charlotte, who was living with her twice-divorced boyfriend. He was 51; she was 44. He told her his first wife cheated and he and his second wife "grew apart." They have sex about once a week.
Five months ago, he started spending a lot of time online. She was suspicious and checked his browsing history. He'd been looking ...Read more
If you put your best picture ever on your online profile, is that lying?
If you don't mention an arrest for public nudity under "What Makes Me Special," is that lying?
If you list "blue" under "eye color" when it's actually your contacts that are blue, is that lying?
How about if you neglect to mention that you're in a wheelchair? Is that ...Read more
Most first dates involve eating or drinking. And the man usually picks the spot. It tells a lot about him. Does he choose someplace very hip or someplace out of the way?
Chelsea's date chose someplace out of the way -- way, way out of the way.
CHELSEA: We met online. He told me he knew a fantastic place to have lunch and wanted to keep it a ...Read more
We recently heard from "Skeptical," who wondered if he had reason to suspect his wife was cheating or if he was just being paranoid.
His evidence included numerous calls to an old boyfriend, whom she claimed she wasn't in contact with, hundreds of texts to a different man and a "platonic" date with a third man that lasted till 3 a.m.
Other red...Read more
Kim and John were 19 when they met. They married eight months later. She says he was "very good looking" and they had "a lot of fun" together. John went into the Army. When he was discharged, he went to work for a phone company.
It wasn't long before Kim suspected he was cheating. "He would hang out at the bar with his co-workers and stay out ...Read more
When Nancy met Chris, she was looking for a relationship. Not a relationship with a younger man, just a relationship. When she found out he was 14 years younger, it wasn't a turn on.
"Actually," she says, "His being so much younger was a barrier for me at first, and I wasn't sure if I could handle the age difference. I apparently decided I ...Read more
We can debate whether love at first sight actually exists.
(I say no. Lust at first sight, yes. Attraction at first sight, yes. Chemistry at first sight, yes. Love at first sight, no, even though all of those things can turn into love. But I digress.)
What is not up for debate is the instant turnoff. Things can be going along fine and then ...Read more
Tracy says she's been a loner since the age of 4. She was smart and taught herself to read, but she says in her traditional Italian family, "Intelligence of females was not valued, especially by the father."
When she was 7, a cousin convinced her the world would end at the stroke of midnight in 1960. That unleashed a wave of chronic anxiety in ...Read more
Dear Cheryl: My wife is extremely outgoing with both men and women. She's always making new friends, and she works at keeping relationships with high school and college friends alive. But three things have been bothering me.
Issue No. 1: Several years ago, I found a man's cellphone number in my wife's cellphone. They had dated once many years ...Read more
We recently met Jason and Andrea. They were the lawyers whose relationship turned from professional to personal after Jason's wife died.
They first met over 30 years ago, when they were on opposite sides of a case. Jason says he won the case. Andrea says she doesn't remember anything about it.
"I was a young lawyer working for someone else ...Read more
Today's column proves one thing: Men and women can find each other anywhere -- at a car wash, at an airport and even at a funeral!
KYLE: Jeff, a friend, mentor and all-around great guy, died an untimely death. He was such a well-known guy that a two-day wake was necessary. While at the second night's gathering, I met Luann, who had known Jeff ...Read more