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The Marriage Is Over, but the Scars Are Forever

Samantha met Chris one February evening at an arcade. She was 15; he was 19.

"He complimented me and basically charmed my pants off."

After several meetings and a few weeks of phone calls, he told her he loved her and was going to marry her.

Chris showed every sign of being trouble. He was always drinking and would get angry if he didn't ...Read more

And Then She Smiled ...

Have you ever been on a date that seemed to be going so well until ...

ANDY: I met her in a bar, which happened to be very dark. She was blond with a smokin' body. We talked for a few minutes and then she and her girlfriends had to leave. Before she left, I got her number.

The following weekend, we went out to dinner at a restaurant that was...Read more

A Happy Ending After a Bad Beginning and a Worse Middle

Matt's drinking and jealousy began while he and Tracee were dating and escalated after they were married. He accused her of flirting with everyone from his nephew to their pastor. He tried to isolate her from her friends and family.

Three years into their marriage, she got pregnant. "I gave birth to our son three months early because of the ...Read more

What Happens When You Don't Listen to Your Mother

Tracee was 22 when she met Matt. Her best friend was dating his friend, so they saw each other at parties. "We danced all the time, but I always declined his invitations to date because I was living with someone. I was attracted to him, but I thought he was a bit too old for me. He was 35."

Still, a few years later, they started to date and ...Read more

From Russia, but No Love

Six years ago, Andy met Bethany, the woman he calls his "soul mate." They moved in together.

"She was the woman whom I fully intended to grow old with. I loved her more than life itself. She was my world."

Unfortunately, Bethany died in April in a car accident. "I was devastated. I'm still in shock today, five months later. After her funeral...Read more

'For Better or Worse' ... Really?

Today's column addresses some very difficult issues: namely, what does "for better or worse" really mean and can a person really deny their sexuality?

These issues were brought up by Jessie, who wanted to stay married to Chris even after he acknowledged he was gay and had had an affair with a man.

KAREN: I'm amazed at Jessie's naivete. Did ...Read more

Some Vows Need to Be Broken

Despite knowing he was gay and had already had an affair with a man, Jessie was determined to honor her wedding vows.

"I think we both wanted to stay married. I wanted him to stop cheating on me and breaking our vows. It didn't matter with whom he was cheating, man or woman."

Jessie says she believes that "people can choose to be faithful. ...Read more

If It Tells You It's a Duck, It's a Duck

Jessie says her husband Chris "alluded" to being gay at different times during their 21-year marriage. She never took him seriously, although she did become suspicious a few years before he came out to her.

"I'd lost a lot of weight, and I had total strangers checking me out, but I didn't see that same interest in my own husband's eyes. Even ...Read more

The Flotsam and Jetsam of a Relationship Gone Bad

In the immortal words of Neil Sedaka, "Breaking up is hard to do." There's the emotional pain to deal with, of course, that constant throbbing pain in the heart. But there are physical reminders, too. The dirty sock under the bed. The toothbrush in the medicine chest. A nightgown stuffed in a drawer. A jar of anchovies you never would've bought....Read more

Today's Column Brought to You by the Letter P

Pears and pregnancy tests -- you wouldn't think they had much in common, other than the letter P. But in today's column, they both mean "See ya, bye!"

GREG: I knew it was over when we exchanged Christmas gifts. We'd only been dating for less than two months. She was a doctor, and I was a teacher.

We both loved Music of the Baroque, and I'd ...Read more


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