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Some Vows Need to Be Broken

Despite knowing he was gay and had already had an affair with a man, Jessie was determined to honor her wedding vows.

"I think we both wanted to stay married. I wanted him to stop cheating on me and breaking our vows. It didn't matter with whom he was cheating, man or woman."

Jessie says she believes that "people can choose to be faithful. ...Read more

If It Tells You It's a Duck, It's a Duck

Jessie says her husband Chris "alluded" to being gay at different times during their 21-year marriage. She never took him seriously, although she did become suspicious a few years before he came out to her.

"I'd lost a lot of weight, and I had total strangers checking me out, but I didn't see that same interest in my own husband's eyes. Even ...Read more

The Flotsam and Jetsam of a Relationship Gone Bad

In the immortal words of Neil Sedaka, "Breaking up is hard to do." There's the emotional pain to deal with, of course, that constant throbbing pain in the heart. But there are physical reminders, too. The dirty sock under the bed. The toothbrush in the medicine chest. A nightgown stuffed in a drawer. A jar of anchovies you never would've bought....Read more

Today's Column Brought to You by the Letter P

Pears and pregnancy tests -- you wouldn't think they had much in common, other than the letter P. But in today's column, they both mean "See ya, bye!"

GREG: I knew it was over when we exchanged Christmas gifts. We'd only been dating for less than two months. She was a doctor, and I was a teacher.

We both loved Music of the Baroque, and I'd ...Read more

Greetings From the South of France

Dear Readers: By the time you read this, I'll be at my villa in Provence overlooking my vineyard.

The most amazing thing happened! Actually, it was two amazing things (three if you count the Nigerian Prince, but I prefer not to). First, I won the lottery! I know! What are the chances? I never even play! Second, there are thousands of pounds ...Read more

Are Trust and Respect Possible After a Divorce? Are They Even Desirable?

Dear Cheryl: It's been a month since my divorce, a divorce caused by my ex-husband's cheating.

I barely talk to him, which is generally good. When we do talk, it's usually about our daughter. But we have said many nasty things to each other in the past. He started all of this to get under my skin. He keeps telling me how happy he is with his ...Read more

What Guys Will Put Up With for Great Sex

Six months after Tommy met Lexie, she talked him into letting her move in with him. After an additional six months, she talked him into marrying her. "There were no red flags other than her eagerness to move the relationship along with the threat of her ending it if I were to stall. So I let it happen because I was otherwise enjoying her ...Read more

The Divorce Was Just the Beginning

Nicole had been married for 20 years and had three teenagers when her husband Liam suddenly filed for divorce. Four years after their divorce, he came out to their children but made them promise not to tell her. Two years later, he finally told her.

"I had no idea he was gay. We married when we were both young, just 24, and I was a bit naive....Read more

First the Cheating, Then the Crazy

I've done a few columns lately about wives gone wild. Today, we have a husband run rowdy.

Emma says that every time she and her husband Barney had an argument, he would punish her by going to a singles event, meeting some woman and stringing her along.

"The first time I caught him was after I had a funny premonition that something was wrong....Read more

A Step-Rose by Any Other Name Is Still A Step-Rose

Have you ever had to make a family tree? If you have, be glad you're not part of Judy's family, with all her relatives, half-relatives, ex-relatives and step-relatives. It may not be something Ozzie and Harriet can relate to, but for many of us, it's Main Street, America, circa 2019.

And with all those relatives floating around, the question ...Read more

I Knew It Was Love When ... I Knew It Was Over When ...

Love isn't always accompanied by roses and rainbows. And breakups don't always have to be dramatic, door-slamming events. Sometimes a quiet "Let's never see each other again" is just as effective.

JASON: Many years ago, my girlfriend and I were the perfect couple. We were cast from the same mold. We never seemed to disagree. It was ...Read more

Yogi Berra Was Right

It's not over till it's over. It's not over after 40 years of an abusive marriage. It's not over after five years of being divorced. It's not over after unsuccessful dating.

Nancy had been unhappily married for a very long time, over 40 years. Her husband had been abusive, and she finally got the strength to leave him.

She was alone for five...Read more


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