'Omg im so angry'
"You can try again and have another." (They already had hopes, dreams and aspirations for the baby they lost. A new baby isn't a replacement.)
"The baby was deformed."
"There was something wrong with the baby, and it's better off dead."
"You didn't deserve that baby, so God took it."
As far as ways to cope, my sister bought a fairly large angel centerpiece for her dining room table. It's her reminder that she has her own angel in heaven. It's there for all the big celebrations. She also bought an angel Christmas tree ornament. It is hung every year, along with "baby's first Christmas" ornaments. -- Big Sister
Dear Big Sister: Thank you for sharing.
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