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Couple's Long, Joyful Marriage Is Based Upon Three Principles

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: Many of your published letters come from unhappy married women. Some of them seem unable to get objective advice that would make themselves and their marriages happier. I'm fortunate to be happily married (33 years) to a wonderful woman who has a clear perspective.

Three pearls of wisdom she could share:

1. Don't sulk because your ...Read more

Mom Gives Blessing To Kids Attending Church With Grandma

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am an atheist. My parents, although raised Presbyterian, never to my knowledge participated in organized religion, so it was not part of my upbringing.

Last year my mom started going to church again, and my kids have been going with her. I've always said they can make their own choices and I'd support them.

Mom is about to go ...Read more

Learn To Manage Anger Before Exploding At Kids

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 23-year-old woman, and I know I should have a lot more patience than I do right now. I'm happily married with two beautiful children. After work when I return home, I'm fine for the first hour or so. But if my children start to get loud or keep asking me to do something, I get extremely aggravated.

My children are young and I ...Read more

Mom And Ex At Loggerheads Over Daughter's Cellphone

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I bought my 11-year-old daughter a cellphone. My ex does not approve. We have been divorced for six years, and he still can't get over it. He despises me. He refuses to listen to why I want her to have a cellphone.

While I want her to be responsible with it, I realize she will make mistakes -- which she already has by being on her ...Read more

Photo Of Mom In Body Bag Infuriates Grieving Daughter

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a 58-year-old female. My mother passed away in my home almost exactly a year ago. I took care of her for the last three years of her life. After she died, my brother and his wife came to my home at 1:30 p.m. The funeral home didn't arrive to pick her up until 8:30 that night.

Later that evening, after my mom was gone and my ...Read more

Sister Worries Hotel Plans Might Insult Rest Of Family

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My sister and her family recently moved out of state after having lived near our family all her life. Mom and I want to visit her this year, but she likely won't have enough room for us in the house because she has three kids and only three bedrooms. She does have a sofa bed and an air mattress, but neither my mother nor I want to ...Read more

Shy Guy Needs Some Help Putting Best Foot Forward

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My friend Russ is a sweet, quiet, reserved guy with a goofy side. He's in his mid-20s, but has never kissed a girl or gone out on a date. (He is the kind of person girls regard as a brother figure.) He has no confidence and doesn't drink, dance or let loose. I have seen his dating profiles, and they are brutally unappealing.

I want ...Read more

High School Friend Turned Enemy Continues Her Attacks

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I need your help in dealing with an old frenemy. Jenny and I were friends in high school, but she constantly berated me and accused me of taking advantage of her. She would make herself feel better by putting me down.

After she went away to college, she got pregnant by a non-boyfriend. When she had an abortion, she swore me to ...Read more

Girl Who Shies Away From Gym Can Enjoy A Good, Long Walk

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My mom wants me to exercise more. Currently, I just walk a lot (in my house and around the block). I know exercise is a good idea, but I'm really self-conscious about it. I never feel like I'm doing it right (because I know you can easily pull a muscle), and I feel like everyone else in the gym is judging me.

Now that I'm 17, Mom ...Read more

Wife Who Escaped Abusive Marriage Must Not Go Back

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: In the beginning of our marriage there was physical abuse and marital rape. I stayed anyway. Over the years we had two children. My husband, Seth, and I don't communicate because he has refused to talk about any issues we have. During the last few years, my youngest son has also become physically abusive to me.

I tried to leave many ...Read more

Ex-Husband Who Drives Drunk Should Be Taken Off The Road

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: A few months ago I left my husband after a long marriage, mostly due to his drinking. He often insisted on getting behind the wheel while drunk, and I was uncomfortable about it, although I repeatedly begged him not to do it.

Since our split he has been drinking much later at his favorite bar. Where he used to come home about 8, he ...Read more

Key To Wife's Hoarding May Be In Her Genes

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I and our 13-year-old son live in a nice home we have been remodeling for the last eight years. The problem is, my wife has a hard time getting rid of anything, and she constantly brings home new projects that take up space but never get done. At one point, we hired a professional organizer because we had reached the point...Read more

Mood Swings Cause Young Teen To Question Emotions

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am at the end of my wits, and I need some answers. I am almost 13 and dread being a teenager because I don't want things to be complicated. I used to have depression and felt suicidal, but I never told anybody. I eventually got over it and am now physically fine. But I'm not emotionally stable.

Recently, I was told things I don't ...Read more

Plotting Against Ex-Husband Keeps Woman Mired In Divorce

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced for five years, yet I can't seem to make headway. I constantly obsess about my failed marriage and the fact that my ex has moved on and remarried. I plot every day how to make his life miserable, which gives me some relief. I have been to counseling, but can't seem to move forward. I don't want to be stuck in this...Read more

Toddler's Taste In Clothes Stirs Up Family Tensions

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My brother and sister-in-law have been dressing my 2-year-old nephew, Charlie, in dresses and pink clothes. They say these are what the boy has chosen. To me, a toddler will pick out whatever gets his attention at the moment, and children that age have only a rudimentary understanding of gender.

It would be one thing if Charlie were ...Read more

Relative Says Family Fundraiser Has Gone To The Well Too Often

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: A family member keeps setting up fundraisers every time she wants to buy something for her family. If a child needs a special class, she asks the relatives to pitch in to pay for it. When her husband wanted to return to college, she brought all the extended family together to see who could contribute.

She has now set up a fundraiser ...Read more

Man Feels Abandoned As Girl Transitions To New Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a straight man who met and fell in love with a transgender girl I'll call Eve. We dated for almost three years, and they were the happiest of my life. In all that time, we never once had an argument. She said I had given her the strength to come out to her family and begin her transition. I was planning to ask her to marry me.

...Read more

Secret Baptism For Baby Is Scheme That's All Wet

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My niece has a 1-year-old son. Neither my niece nor the baby's father is religious, and they have chosen not to have the baby baptized. My sister, the baby's grandmother, while not wanting to impose her beliefs on the parents, comes from a generation when even couples who were not demonstrably religious usually had their baby baptized...Read more

Deceased Grandma Still Lives Through Grandpa's Deception

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: My mother-in-law passed away two years ago from lung cancer. My father-in-law hasn't taken it well. This year at Christmas he fabricated a letter and gifts from her for the grandkids, as if she had written the letter and bought the gifts before she passed away. He did it without my knowledge.

I am angry and upset that I was made part...Read more

The Dawn Of A New Year Brings Joy, Hope For New Beginnings

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR READERS: It's 2017! A new year has arrived, bringing with it our chance for a new beginning.

Today is the day we have an opportunity to discard destructive old habits for healthy new ones, and with that in mind, I will share Dear Abby's often-requested list of New Year's Resolutions -- which were adapted by my late mother, Pauline Phillips...Read more

 
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