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Ask Anna: My boyfriend wants us to become a TikTok couple
Dear Anna,
I'm a 28-year-old woman living in Brooklyn, New York, with my boyfriend of two years, who's been getting more and more enthralled with the world of TikTok lately. He's always been big on social media, way more so than me, and he recently brought up this idea of us evolving into a “TikTok couple.” Now he's picturing us posting ...Read more
Erika Ettin: Extra cheese, please!
I’d like a large thin-crust pizza with extra cheese, red peppers, pepperoni and olives. But can you please make sure the cheese is covering the whole pizza because I don’t like baldness? And actually, why don’t you hold the pepperoni all together. I’d like someone who doesn’t eat processed red meat. And while you’re there, make sure ...Read more
Ask Anna: Navigating casual dating when she wants more
Dear Anna,
I'm a guy in my late 20s, and I'm not on the lookout for a lasting relationship at the moment. I'm enjoying the freedom, exploring my options and focusing on personal growth. Recently, I've started seeing this fantastic woman. She's got all the great qualities you’d look for, but here's the rub: She's interested in something ...Read more
Yes, no or even maybe: How to react to a second date invitation
Anyone on the dating scene knows that it can feel like an accomplishment just to get to the first date. You’ve both swiped right (or whatever the equivalent is on the app you’re using), chatted a bit, planned a meeting and now you’re grabbing cocktails or coffee—success! With a second date on the horizon, things can go in quite a few ...Read more
Ask Anna: Can you start a relationship long distance? Plus, breaking up with kindness
Dear Anna,
Two months back, I (39F) instantly meshed with a man (36) at a concert. Despite the seven-hour distance between us and a mutual disinterest in romance, daily texts and weekly marathon calls quickly became our norm. He affectionately called me “babe” and his texts were often flirtatious. I told him I wanted a long-term commitment....Read more
Lying about your age in your dating profile is never a good idea (seriously -- no exceptions)
You’ve probably been told at some point in your life that there’s nothing wrong with a little white lie. And in some cases, yes — it’s better to tell your sister-in-law that her new haircut looks great rather than start a family war by making a joke about her losing a bet with her stylist. (Not saying this from personal experience, ...Read more
Ask Anna: Understanding work crushes, keeping clothes on during sex and FWB gift etiquette
Dear Anna,
I (35-year-old man) struck up a friendly rapport with a lady (unsure of her age, but probably late 20s or early 30s) who works in my building. We find time to converse during breaks and even hung out at a few group events (trivia night, anyone?). On a whim, I invited her to grab coffee with me yesterday afternoon. She agreed, ...Read more
Navigating exclusivity in dating
As a dating coach, I'm frequently asked questions about exclusivity in relationships — how to approach it, when to discuss it, and what to expect. I want to address two questions I got just today and offer some insights on how to handle these situations effectively.
Question 1: I’ve been seeing someone for two and a half months and found ...Read more
The secret sauce of text convos: playful reciprocity
Do you often find yourself stuck in an endless loop of lackluster text chains with potential matches?
It’s a common dating app woe, but thankfully, it’s one that you have the power to turn around to work in your favor. Whether you like texting or not, it’s an integral part of modern-day courtship. The sooner you accept that and engage ...Read more
Ask Anna: Is it time to break up? Understanding unrequited love in relationships
Dear Anna,
For the past four months, I've been seeing someone wonderful. They are kind, thoughtful and truly everything one could ask for in a partner. However, despite their undeniable goodness and the time we've spent together, I've come to the harsh realization that I'm not in love with them. I love them as a person, but not in the grand ...Read more
Navigating political conversations in dating in an election year
We've all heard the advice, probably from our friends… or, more likely, grandparents: avoid controversial topics on a first date. While steering clear of discussing exes and past relationships is relatively straightforward (seriously, no ex-talk on a first date!), dodging politics feels nearly impossible, especially with the next presidential ...Read more
Ghosting is ruthless. So why are we all doing it?
LOS ANGELES -- Alexis Fischer was excited to jump back into the dating world after being single for two years.
The professional dancer-turned-entrepreneur took time to heal from her breakup with her ex-boyfriend of nearly four years. She also wanted to focus on building her business, the Move by Lexfish app, where she teaches virtual Pilates, ...Read more
Ask Anna: Caught in the act? How to bounce back from awkward encounters with parents
Dear Anna,
I've been dating my boyfriend for about six months now. He's at college in Ohio while I'm stuck in our small town in Iowa. We've been trying to make the long-distance thing work and keep the connection and, y'know, the spark. So last night, we were video chatting. With miles between us, things started to get a bit...well, heated, if ...Read more
Why writing an accurate profile is better than creating an interesting one
As anyone who has tried it knows that online dating can have its fair share of challenges … and it all starts with writing your profile. And as someone who has read thousands of bios over the years, believe me when I say that many (very many) people are going about it incorrectly.
Sure, there are the common mistakes: lazy profiles that ...Read more
How to help a friend after a devastating breakup? Your first instinct is wrong
LOS ANGELES — It's hard to know what to do or say when a loved one is in the throes of a devastating breakup. No matter what you try — talking about it, not talking about it, vilifying the ex, coming up with fun distractions — they remain consumed with grief. Is there a right way to ease the pain?
There is, according to experts. Although ...Read more
Ask Anna: Crush or lust? How to decipher your feelings
Dear Anna,
Lately, I've found myself questioning the nature of my attraction toward a new acquaintance of mine. He's charming, always has an interesting story to share, and I can't deny the physical attraction. However, I really can’t tell if this is the beginning of a short-term crush developing, or if I just need to get laid? It’s been a ...Read more
Ask Anna: Redefining the 'player': Classy, honest and empowered dating for women
Dear Anna,
Do female players exist? If so, how do I become one? I want to keep it classy and maintain my integrity while I get out there and experience as much as I can. — Getting Action Makes Excitement Outwardly Novel
Dear GAMEON,
Of course female players exist! (As do players of all genders.) The reason you don’t hear about them as ...Read more
Exclusivity vs. official: What's the difference?
I’ve received a lot of questions in the past six months—more than ever before—asking if there’s a difference between being exclusive with someone and the relationship being “official.” People are also asking, “How long should I wait after being exclusive before being ‘official’?”
The question usually comes from someone who ...Read more
Addicted to swiping right? Lawsuit claims Tinder and Hinge are designed to get users hooked
If you’re swiping on dating apps for hours, you’re not alone — and a new lawsuit claims it’s by design.
Dating apps such as Tinder and Hinge are intentionally addictive, a class-action lawsuit filed in federal court in California on Valentine’s Day claims.
Hidden algorithms push users to stay on the apps and “gamify dating” — ...Read more
Ask Anna: Navigating straight curiosity while in a queer relationship
Dear Anna,
I'm seeking advice about my sexuality and relationship. I'm in a sapphic relationship and while I love my girlfriend deeply and envision a future with her, I can't shake this lingering curiosity about being with men — despite not actually wanting to act on it due to my commitment to my current relationship. As I've only been with ...Read more