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Erika Ettin: The quick and dirty on the dating apps

Erika Ettin, Tribune News Service on

Published in Dating Advice

Just remember that anything works better than the standard “Hey” or “How’s your day going?” that is the baseline greeting most people use. These intros lead to a boring conversation, if one at all. Don’t kill your prospects with a single “Hey.”

Also, when messaging, please remember these other pointers:

– Avoid text speak: Write out things like your (not ur) and are (not r).

– Don’t compliment someone (especially a woman) on his/her looks in the first message. Compliments are appreciated, but only on something someone has earned.

– Bad: You look amazing in that dress.

– Good: That’s so impressive that you got an MBA at night.


– Send the first message shortly after matching. You don’t want to get lost in the crowd.


The whole point of being on a dating app is to get to the date (or video, as the case may be). I recommend setting up a date within a week of matching with someone. Send a few texts back and forth, and then get to planning. There’s also really no need to trade phone numbers until a day or so before, and not even that is required, if you make all of the plans right in the app. Points for efficiency. Waiting too long to schedule something makes people impatient, and with so many options online, you don’t want to lose your chance.

Now that you know the quick and dirty on the dating apps, happy dating!

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